I don't expect anything from someone that I love . The love is on my end so I give it unconditionally and without judgement.

If they love me in return then I expect those two things in return and loyality which I give freely to those I love

love means standing by someone. if they don't stand by you then it's only infatuation or lust. of course, that can be tough if the person presents really hard problems to stick through. But in my naive opinion, there should be loyalty.

The cute pink piggy and zsa are right in my opinion. Love means loyalty and a mutual attempt to understand each other.

whew, this is such a loaded question for me. I think it means something different for everyone. It's extremely subjective.

If you are asking what to expect from someone you love - I'm going to assume this person has told you that they love you as well. In that case, the expectations are yours. My expectations might be different, and that okay to have differing expectations...as long as your expectations are being MET.

If they are not, that doesn't necessarily mean the person doesn't love you, people love in all fashions, it just might mean that person is not the right one for you.

(hugs)

and...I do not equate love with commitment. I think those two things can be exclusive of each other. I hope this explains my earlier reply better.

Thank you for your responses. I'm going to share this thread with Will first thing in the a.m.

What we are feeling is tricky because of our BP. Our moods are so grandiose sometimes that we could be in love with a bag of garbage. I think love is acceptance. Acceptance of another person..........flaws and all. Love has many feelings. I have been giddy in love with my husband and I have had comfortable love and I have had loathing love LOL. You should expect for someone who loves you to try and be what you need them to be. If your wants are unrealistic, maybe you should examine them. Have you considered couple's counseling?

We tried couples counseling with a person who really didn't have the experience. She was actually a junior high students counselor trying to fill her hours with the company. She counselor was not trained in this area and I think it was more harmful than good. We both got triggered. It made us soar into yet another pit. It became a blame game I guess. We quit counseling.

I guess I am lucky in Love! I know I haven't been fun for my hubby to love all the time. He loves me for me, faults and all.
I Love him the same way. We managed to show our kids what Love was by not judging them when they did something. No matter what.
when we married we didn't say Obey, we said Cherish!
Big difference there. I do Cherish my hubby and my kids.
As far as the feelings- I still get butterflies in my stomach when I think of my hubby even if he isn't in the room.
By the way we will renew our vows on our 25th anniversary this May. I hope this helps.
ttfn AnnieEm

Congratulations Annie. It sounds like a healthy relationship. Good for you and your husband for being excellent parents :)

Love is many different things on many different levels to different people.

Love is compassion, honesty, loyalty, lust, dependency, comittment, attraction, fulfilment, and so many other things.

i agree with Weider and Zsa on this one, i don't expect anything from the people i love, except loyalty and understanding

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7CYI5bKZMes

this Q brings a few power ballads to mind *sigh* haha x

many different forms of love. in your case a spouse should be agape, mixed with eros ;)

agape is the spiritual connection, you are both on the same playing fields, you have intense feelings of emotion for them and would do anything for them, minus things that may cast a spell of discontent on the relationship and make the other look bad, embarrassment,. freakish behavior, not acceptable to other.

the next is erotic, wanna fuck em. self explanatory

if there isnt a good balance of the both, seeing eye to eye while fucking and not while fucking. its not the kind of love that should be had between man and wife.

split those up and you have great friend, or fuck buddy still love just different forms. you should feel good in their presence

remember, we sometimes read situations wrong with this disorder. rule out that if you are having bad feelings first, journal helps.

i hope the med adjustments help and all turns out great, love to you and your family.

i just put out my own relationship, not an easy thing, but you know its right when it is. xo

did you know that english has the least words for love, being the expansive language it is