Yes, I believe my only two fully manic episodes were triggered by a split. One I initiated and another he initiated. Whatever it is, I don't deal well with it.

i just broke up with my girlfriend last night cause i found out she was unfaithful and that i did not trust her or love her anymore when i did it i felt great like i was in charge and was not gonna put up with her crap anymore after that i was on cloud nine last night now today i am depressed and going into a state of seperation anxiety cause i dont know if i did the right thing of not and i know its my manic depression/bi/polar disorder acting up thats why im feeling this way

When my fiance left me a few years ago, I went into a depression which was situational, then went into a manic episode which lasted almost a year. The worst part of it was during this episode, I packed up and moved 2000 miles away from home, then crashed into a major depression, which I fought for a year and a half to get out of. So you can say I am gun shy about romantic relationships since I don't want to set myself up again.

In Dec. 2008 I bought some furniture my husband did not approve of. He did not speak to me for 10 days straight and that triggered a depression I am just coming out of.
I swear to God my husband prefers me depressed, as he is a bit of a control freak. When I am depressed he is in charge on everything and I don't really spend any money. Money is very important to him.

I went hypo-manic when I moved out of depression about 6 weeks ago. I spent too much money. Now instead of giving me the silent treatment he is just in a bad mood and is impossible to carry on a coversation with.
The truth is I am somewhat scared of him. I walk around on pins and needles now. He is my greatest supporter when I am depressed but that seems to fade as I get somewhat better. He understands BP depression but thinks the only other state of mind is feeling perfectly normal.
Susan
Susan

To sum it up, I am beginning to suspect that my husband can trigger my depression. His worse moods mimic my mother's moods and that, believe me, is not good.
Susan

I'm a social retard when it comes to relationships. Oh wait. I'm nice, good looking, and funny. Oh yeah, but women like a$$ holes. Maybe if I could learn to deal with nagging, I'd be okay.

Lee, your #13 just expressed my last month perfectly. And yet, much of it fit my previous relationships, just unmedicated and without the proper emotional reactions, etc. And not enough trust, not enough communication, not enough love, etc.


This time is different. We are Not "over". But the emotional upheaval where reality meets bipolar meets borderline meets Normal issues is Overwhelming.

When I get to the other side, I know I will be a different person, for better or worse.

Well one thing's for sure with seeing everybody's posts:

Buckle up Dorothy because Kansas is going bye-bye!!!!

As much as I've been put through sheer and utter extreme hell at times with relationships and the after-effects, I've also developed considerably as a person, growing immensely in all areas - and even if another relationship or two were to put me in hospital again, I'd do it just the same the next time round!

I say go for the white-knuckle ride if you can hold on or strap yourself in. Life if anything is to enjoy the ride, no matter what that may be.

That's funny. I've heard that same line, "very" recently -

"even if another relationship or two were to put me in hospital again, I'd do it just the same the next time round"

- and I know what you mean. :)

I haven't lost him, but sometimes I get triggered, or he does, for whatever reason... then we end up depressed or anxious etc. It can be rough at times. We joined a church nearby and I think that will help both of us.

I've been triggered into something.

But in the olden days when there were deaths in the family, I would maybe start cleaning the house from top to bottom. But I think non bp-ers do that also.

UM< * RAISES HAND UP HIGH*

that is my #1 trigger........loss of love.......

New relationships swing me into mania, loss of a friend sometimes makes me manic or depressed.