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Too reliant?

caites13
caites13
I have bipolar 2, and anxiety. I've been trying to sort out medication. At the moment I'm only on clonazapam for my anxiety. It's been rough. My morning dose makes very sleepy. Anyways, my life has been a disaster. Every day is a struggle.
My support system isn't very big. My family don't understand mental health. It's not that they are bad people they just don't know how to be supportive. We don't talk about our feelings. My friends either don't know about my "situation". I have a friend, we will call her Lacy. Lacy is always here for me. She constantly checks in, listens to me venting. She is great. She's getting married. So bridal showers, bachelorette and a slew things of things. My anxiety going to all of these is ridiculously high. My depression makes it hard. Lacy understands but I have such guilt. She is the best support I have, and she's going through the best period of her life. And even with that, she's supportive. I feel like I should be able to suck it up, for her. She's such a good friend and all these celebrations are a time for me to be there for her to celebrate. But all it gives me is intense anxiety.
Should I rely less on her? If I do I have no one.
What do I do?
tommymott
tommymott
This sure sounds like a situation that should be presented to your pdoc/therapist. My own experience is to avoid depending on any one person too much.
TC40
TC40
That is a guard one. Maybe try to hold on tight and wait for her exciting life events to transpire. Once you get through that period, perhaps coming back a little closer. Tommy had a good thought though. Depending on one person is probably not the best option. It is HARD to be alone and with no support. I am dealing with the exact same thing. So I totally get it. We are here for you. If you want, I could message you and we could help each other since we both seem to be in the same boat. plus everyone here Is super nice!!!
caites13
caites13
The process where I live takes about 8 weeks to get a mental health worker. I'm week 4 in this process so unfortunately I can't discuss with them. Her wedding is late August. Things going how they are, I won't make it till August.
I wish my family could be more helpful. I wish I could get a grip on this.
irishwriter
irishwriter
can you talk to your pdoc about your clonaepam dose and maybe spread it out during the day. it shouldn't knock you out. i am happy for you that you have at least one friend who is there to support you. she is worth her weight in gold. people are remarkably resiliant and if she is still there for you in the midst of everything i wouldl just be glad of it and not feel guilty. go through the schedule of events and if there are any you can leave out (not attend) then do that. you have to take care of you and your friend willl understand. you wouldn't apologise for yiourself if you had cancer so don't apologise for having bp and anxiety. hugs.
SensitiveHoboLady
SensitiveHoboLady
I've had to seek out the connection to others in support groups locally. I hide my illness from most people in my life, and yes, that's a lonely feeling. Individual therapy helps me tremendously too. I do think we need more than one person to help us manage....
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