Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.
I've been thinking a lot about marriage. Is it for me? For a long time I thought that I'd never get married...after seeing the horror that my poor mother has gone through. My father was a drug addict (when they were together), my mother was engaged to a man that sexually harassed me and my friends when I was about 13...and my mother has been with and married to this horrible alcoholic for the past 15 years.
I've been with someone for a couple of years now. He's accepting of my illness...has been with me throughout it all, good and bad. He loves my kids and they love and respect him. I keep thinking that he must be the one. But I'm afraid of it. Jaded by my own mother's experiences. He's not as understanding that I'm jaded. Saying that it doesn't pertain to us...which I know it doesn't...but still. How can you just try to ignore the general consensus and live your own life?
I've been with someone for a couple of years now. He's accepting of my illness...has been with me throughout it all, good and bad. He loves my kids and they love and respect him. I keep thinking that he must be the one. But I'm afraid of it. Jaded by my own mother's experiences. He's not as understanding that I'm jaded. Saying that it doesn't pertain to us...which I know it doesn't...but still. How can you just try to ignore the general consensus and live your own life?
Does he drink?
Does he do drugs?
Does he have a bad temper?
How does he get along with his mom?
Does he have a job?
I also suggest pre-marital counseling. A lot of big issues get brought out into the open. Do either of you wish to have children together while the other doesn't? Whose houes do you live in? How will you handle finances, etc ...
You don't have to repeat your mother's failures. Just keep your eyes wide open.
he drinks socially
no drugs
he IS easily frustrated, but keeps his anger at bay.
He doesn't have much of anything to do with his Mom.
He's been working steadily for longer than I've known him.
He and I would have to get a new place all together since I'm currently living w/ my Mom and he has a 1 bedroom apt. I have 2 kids and am unable to have more...and he's known that since I've met him.
He has been with me from my most manic days ever through my complete crash and near death...and on my steady rise back up.
As far as I'm concerned, I think he's the one. Of course I'm just scared.
I've talked to him about it...marriage that is...my daughter (8) wanted to know when/if she'd get a new daddy since she "doesn't have one". My bf said he wouldn't ask me since I can't commit to whether or not I want to. I guess I'm confused.