yeah, it is tricky....I've always fessed up early when interested in s/one....and had surprisingly good reactions....but maybe because I've seemed well and kinda downplay it?? I dunno. It does make it all seem too hard sometimes...like if you get pretty ill..why would you ask anyone else along for the ride. Hmm.

Yes, I very much understand. My now husband was arrested in March and we had been together almost a year but I had never told him. When he proposed to me while he was in jail I felt he needed to know about my BP. So before I said Yes I had to tell him. I felt like he deserved to know what he was getting into. I was just like you scared he would think I was crazy and dump me. But he understand and said he had suspected something was going on but decided to just support me until I decided the time was right to tell him.
I believe you should tell you sigficant other if you ever plan to have an open and honest relationship.

I was totally nuts so everything we had just fucked up and the engagement was busted.

Yep, understand totally...told my now boyfriend several months after we had been dating so he could see that I can "act right"...although he has since then seen the uglier side of it after 6 yrs together.. and copes well with it.
There are times though when I wonder how the hell he does it...when I am cussing inatimate objects, when my meds aren't right.

Ok this did come from someone else but I"ll give it to you.
Tell him you love him then tell him you hate him.
Throw a bunch of stuff at him, then sit down and read a book.
Then clean the house like a mad women,then go to bed for 3 days. If he sticks around then he understands. :)

It was easy for me, I was already married for many years when I found out. My wife still refuses to look up what it means.

WTF

exctly! and it feels like to me ur telling the preson that when u date me ur gunna see it all.. I always tell them once I know its gunna get serious.
but still I feel sorry for my bf at times puttin up with me.. Hes starting to understand more witch helps but still ya know

I should add that I didn't realize how ugly it could get until you add surgical menopause to the mix and meds that fuck with you instead of helping. I know now to watch for signs that a med may be messing with me and could throw me into a full blown, what the hell have I done, mania.

geeeezus this board moves fast

lou2, I wonder that same thing, about asking someone else along for the ride when it all goes to hell.

ya I know.. I away tell the preson I am with once it gets serious but I feel bad that my bf puts up with my shit( I guess that how I know he loves me:P) and for some who has never dealt with bipoler it seem to be really hard for him to understand just cuz I know how to deal with it most days

I had meant the relationship I was in at the time of me going cosmic.


Since then..I wait till it gets to the point that I know I have nothing to lose.They either know you by then or not.
It's less stressful the more confident you are about yourself.

mmm.

I just spoke to a friend whom I haven't been in touch with for two years that I was BP and she didn't know what it was. Thankfully after I expained it she was so sympathetic and kind. Guess that is why were such good friends.

That is also hard when friends dont no ur bipoler and you tell them or someone brings it up around them