Well, I hate to see you fall into bad eating habits again, or worse , eating disorders.

But seriously, if you are on BP meds...many of them affect the body in a way, we gain weight and have a hard time losing it .

Sweetie, you are 23, if "Daddy" starts in on you about your weight...I think it's time to stand up for yourself, and let "Daddy" know you are dealing with your weight issue , the best you can....end of discussion

Thanks D. I wish it was that simple. If I stood up to my dad he wouldn't help me out anymore. I can't afford a phone, so he put me on his plan. I'm a broke college kid and he sends me money so I can by toilet paper and stuff... lol.

But, I will try to stand my ground this time. But I know he will just scream at me... Idk if it's worth it for getting called names and being yelled at.

I love my dad to death, I want to do everything to make him proud. I'm getting almost straight A's in school and other stuff is going well too... I just need to lose weight. Not only for him, but for me too. It will help my medical problems a lot.

For me the meds made me gain weight. I like to say I'm just fluffy but sane. Take it or leave it. I don't need any crap from anyone...I have enough to deal with. So unless "daddy" is a marathon runner and perfect in ever other way. They need to just hush.

why not try being a pesco-vegetarian.

i'm doing it.
you eat everything a vegetarian eats plus fish and no other kind of meat but seafood.

i don't know, just an idea.
i'd like to be vegetarian, but this allows me some major protein if i need it. it's a good way to transition.

you could just make it fun for yourself, choose things that will be right for you and still taste okay... you'll end up feeling better. i'm working on it too..

You are all right. I was blind to not see it. It is absurd to try to be his image of perfect.

congrats on the straight a's. nice.

just remember, because someone is helping someone else out, it doesn't give them the right to belittle them.

Thanks Mojo. I just hate when he gets angry at me... He has some serious anger, drinking and pilling problems.

I also don't want to see you fall back into your eating disorder full fledged.

I have friends who are anorexic and bulimic and bulimarexic (having both issues).

If you think you are going to go back there to your ED please seek help. Perhaps the help you once had will help you again. It is awfully hard to stop an ED entirely without help from professionals who are qualified to deal with it. I'm not trying to discourage you but to let you know you are not alone.

I also have an ED but it takes a slightly different form than yours takes.

My parents harped on my weight so much so that I moved out at 20 and married the third guy that came along and asked me. I gained a lot of weight and I am talking over 100 pounds here and my parents just would NOT STOP the harping. I tried to let them know it bothered me but it went in one ear and out the other. They could not hear me because I don't think they could accept it so as a result I was never heard.

As a result they lost me PERIOD. I did NOT visit them for 7 YES SEVEN years until I absolutely had to go and visit my (terminal) Mom. I got there on a Tuesday and watched her die on Friday of the same week.

I did not recognize my parents when I saw them the changes were so drastic. (My father had renal failure). I was the last person to see him alive.

I wish I had found a way to get them to hear me that I'm an adult and I am working on my weight to the best of my ability instead of avoiding them for 7 years.

It was so bad that my Mother on her DEATH BED literal death bed said "you'd lose a lot of weight if you had to take care of me every day". I chose not to cause a scene with that as she was mostly out of her head anyway with the cancer.

I'm sorry if I have digressed too far I just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

As for your ED you have every right to be scared and should be concerned. ED's can be deadly and IMHO need to be aggressively treated when out of control.

My medical issues prevent me from working out too. My joints suck big time. I have a host of health conditions related to my obesity but thankfully I have been holding the same weight since I was put on Seroquel. Well, not totally true within the same 15 pounds (to the less not more) of where I was when I started the Seroquel.

If you go see a counselor perhaps discuss with them the best way to handle this situation. HUGS and Good Luck!

Thank you, Java, for the support. Both my mom and sister have EDs. Mom doesn't eat at all.. You can feel each one of her ribs. My sister was in and out of clinics for years. Now she is getting kinda heavy. I'm worried about her because she almost died a few times because of it. I don't want that to be me... Just the idea of eating makes me feel sick.

I was semi-thin and in really good shape until I started on the damn Seroquel.

I'm thinking about getting the lapband surgery.

Seroquel is notorious for weight gain. :( Before considering weight loss surgery consider this: Your ED will still be there after the surgery.

I personally know someone who had the lap band and had to have emergency surgery after she lost the weight. She did lose (weight) though and has kept it off last I knew of.

A lot of insurances will not pay for weight loss surgery period. In order to get weight loss surgery my understanding is that you have to be pre approved for it.

I know for gastric bypass this means psych testing and such.

I have a good friend who was considering lap band surgery and then the nutritionist they sent her to caught on to the fact she has severe food allergies and my friend did not even know she had these allergies! I'm serious.

She is allergic to over 40 different things mostly foods. My point in all of this is my friend was 300 pounds and 5 feet 10 she is now in size 16 jeans and while that is not thin as a rail she was only able to lose the vast majority of her weight AFTER she found out about the food allergies.

I am not a doctor nor do I play one on TV :) I'm just trying to give you something more to think about.

I think that you should copy something off the internet about weight gain on meds. My mom is the same way, and she is 82. She starved my father to death, literally. She can't stop harping about weight.

You should be proud about straight A's. And just to let you know, I am a believer in exercise for a million reasons. But it won't help you lose weight, just maintain it. Sounds like you have been through a lot.

I am a pesco-vegetarian too. It really is healthy. Except I recently found out all the food in the northern Pacific is contaminated by various levels of mercury. So now I eat Tilapia and Basa - from South America, which are still healthy.

We were just talking about this at supper. Our oceans are being destroyed. It just makes me hurt to think of the whole earth dying because humans can't clean up after themselves. Sigh. Sorry for the vent on your thread.

I spoke with my doctor a while ago about this, but I forgot to fill out fourms, write an eassy of how I want to lose weight and telling how I've tired to in the past. Next time I go see him, I am going to talk about it more

Why for God's sake do you even want to go and visit him???????????????????????????????????????????? So now you are doing the reverse of eating to much, and you are trying to starve.............will NOTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT work girlie. Your body operates on food and when you eat healthy food in small portions, 5x a day, and exercise for 20 minutes, YOU WILL LOOSE WEIGHT. Also there is Weight Watchers, I have had great success in that, I lost and kept off 100 lbs for 3 years. Don't see your dad, he has negative energy.......he will only drag down your sweet soul. Stay away from him, he is ignorant, obviously. Be true to you and really try Weight Watchers, you get alot of support also. Good luck to you girlie and God bless you. Jen

I too suffer with an Eating Disorder and to be honest have gone back in forth on the weight gain. For the last two months, I have been doing salad every other night for dinner and it seems to be helping me feel better in dealing with the weight. I know it is hard and that it is not easy to stand up to others about this, but I think the important thing to remember is you need to be proud of yourself and you come first. Not eating will not make you happy or life easier. But I agree talk with your doctor and therapist about what is going on. They may be able to help you get the help you need. Hang in there.

Hi Shlay~~

I'm so sorry you're struggling with eating issues and your dad's intimidation. Resolving to become more healthy is a great commitment, however, it needs to be done in a healthy way. The eating something small once a day deal is scary.

Feed that lovely body of yours with reasonable portions of all the things it needs. We have a set of plates made by Slimware that has a lily pad pattern on the front. Big lilypad = veggies; medium lilypad = protein, small lilypad = starch. It's an easy way to keep your portions in check.

Under his rudeness, your dad is probably just concerned. He loves you more than you know. Just tell him, "I got this one, Dad." End of discussion.

Good luck!