Just sounds like your afraid to get hurt...

It sounds like self esteem issues.....putting some one down to bolster your own self perception ?

Any way, if you want a long term relationship...better try and not put some one down.

Good Luck

Oh, and to answer your question, no I do not put people down.

i usually put myself down. i'm like that guy who can't stop saying "i'm sorry"

i'm sorry

I used to do that- usually backhanded remarks, things to make them feel bad....what I was really doing was tearing them down to build myself up- self esteem issues big time.

It was a hard habit to break, but I got better during my marriage(yeah that helped)

To be honest, I do it to be my boyfriend. I know it's not nice to do, but since you are being honest, I am going to be honest with you since that's what you want.

I think it's because my dad used to do that to me. Maybe that's why I do it. Actually, my dad still does this to me, but I have grown up and moved out years ago so I don't have to deal with it as much any more.

I am trying to get better at not doing this and I think the Prozac that I just started taking is helping me be more mellow. I feel horrible about it, actually. I know I sound like a jerk when I talk that way. I also think part of it is depression and being unhappy with my life and taking it out on him.

Chinesebear my Mom says I do it to her but, the reality is we do it to eachother. I don't want to continue this cycle. I want to be happy & want my partner to be too!

As for low self esteem, that must be it! I better start working on myself and stop blaming my disorder or others!!!

Thanks everyone!!!