Hire another babysitter if you can and go anyway. Don't let him bully you.

Maybe if he had the perseverance to get through an entire book all about bipolar disorder and was truly educated, he could assist you?
I'd recommend Bipolar Disorder a Guide for Patients and their Families by Dr. Mondimore of Johns Hopkins.
That would at least show you (and him) how serious he was.
So glad you found that group...hope setting up your own works out.
Good luck!

Or do you have any friends that can help out

He's read books about BP....but he still doesn't get it. He still gets pissed at me for getting depressed, annoyed with me for having mood swings, frustrated with me for being irritable. Understandable for him to be frustrated, but he should KNOW better.

HannaHana ~ This may be none of my business, but his attitude has me very concerned..........if he's going to marry you, then your kids are going to sorta be his kids, too, and he's gonna need to take more responsibility with them. They go with the package, in my opinion.

Some of the things I hear you say about him make me feel that this should be a really long engagement to make sure he's really gonna be the one you want before you marry him.

(Just looking out for you, hun.........)

The problem is that the meetings are right when the kids are about to go to bed. My son needs medication that he would have to give him. I don't have any friends around here unfortunately.

Yes KimChick...I agree. It's definitely going to be a loooooong engagement. I'm so mad at him for preventing me from this resource. It just goes to show that he truly doesn't understand what I'm going through.

He's even jealous of DS. He thinks that I should be talking to him about everything I talk to you guys about.

You need couples counselling...his behavior is dealbreaker-ish. Way too controlling...may only get worse.

Getting jealous of you seeking support for your personal wellbeing is beyond dysfunctional- it's sabotage.

Get help or ditch him

Have you tried hitting him with the book?

I agree with the first poster, try and get someone else and go.

He should actually be a lawyer. If I brought up that he was being controlling and that I'd like to go and talk to these people about my ilness, he'll turn it right back around and make me seem like I'm being insensitive b/c I don't talk to him about my BP....he'll make it out to be that I am being unreasonable and that, poor him, he and I never talk about how I'm feeling.

Tell him your going to have them at your place then.

hahaha. It took me a minute to actually understand what you were saying.

I'll have a talk with him later on, but I'm sure that it'll turn around and I'll be the bad guy.

Hanna, ultimately it is about you. I am dealing with the same type of issues right now in my life. The meds I take and the doc appointments and all the damn side effects are not for my wife or my family, it is for ME. It's about making me feel better about myself. I would explain this fact to him and tell him this is something I have to do for me. Tell him you love him dearly but you need to be with people struggling with the same issues and not people that candy cote everything or just dismiss us as bipolar.

It's the reason I am here on DS, my wife doesn't like it but she doesn't fight me about it either. You gotta do whats good for you Hanna, everything else becomes secondary.

Spouses, Boyfriends...etc. can come and go as they please. They can leave us and find their NORMY soulmates whenever they please but we are stuck with ourselves until the end of our days. Live for you and you will be better for everyone around you.

Should have explained that a bit better but its getting late here

alot of the DBSA meetings are for families coming together, couples who share,where one partner has Bipolar and the other doesn't, and they share with each other maybe you should see if he would like to get involved, maybe he wouldn't have to go to every meeting that away you could go some by yourself, so you could freely talk, if you pull up the DBSA web-site they have a forum, they have 4 different ones, one is for just depression, one for Bipolar, one for friends & family, and one for chemical/dual DX's, they also have on-line chats every day for each one of these, but there at different times mostly at night, but I know wednesdays they have one at 3pm depending on your time zones, you can also pull that schelduel up. Good Luck, getting your husband envolve helps.