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Ok, here goes my problem is this. I have a wonderful husband who is 10 years younger than I am. He has talked alot over the past 4 years of our relationship about wanting children. I have 2 adult children One is tring to get pregnant herself. I am willing to start over with him and have a baby back in our lives because my kids have been the most wonderful blessing in my life and I would never want to deny him that love. Well the other day a woman asked him if he would consider haveing a baby with her. (oh by the way im a gay man) Like I said im ok with the baby part. But he sees no problem in concieving the baby the old fasion way. I do not want that at all! His argument is hes gay and shes a lesbian so the act wont be that great for eather. I know that it would have to be more than one time it could have to be alot. there are other ways of doing it. I know that the invetro method is very expensive and I know this girl doesnt have the money. I think it could be done like the turkey baster method does anyone know if that works? Does anyone think I should not be jelous and just let it happen because im not sure I could handle it but I dont want to be the cause of him not becoming a father.
You guys need to sit down and talke about this, before any decisions are made.
I can see that you are concerned for his feelings, particularly, related to him not becoming a father. If you mutually decide that you want to proceed, there are other ways besides sex to become a father.
Hugs.
You know those Maury segments that pull the paternity test bullshit. They anger me and mainly because those moronic people sit there on public TV arguing who and who is not the parent and it saddens me because some day the child in question is going to see that show - it will be on the net soewhere and realize that out of 7 men that could have been her/his father not one of the was really willing to claim to be. What child needs that knowledge. I say this for two reasons one to say in response to Sunnie's statement while yes I do agree to an extent how one is concieved is really not your business I ean not the physical aspect of it at least. My children will NEVER know how they came to be as not their business and why create an issue where one doesn't have to be. I also said this tho to say that I think what you are doing crested with your partner and this female couple is awesome no matter how, in the end, the baby is concieved and all the child ever needs to know is that she/he has 2 moms and 2 dads that love him/her very much.
Issues of visitation,child support, who carries the health insurance ,schooling..lots of things to take into consideration.
Once you have discussed all the issues,having a child could be great for you two