I'm not quite sure what you're referring to Marky... I do it but it hurts me.. .. I play the negative over and over again sometimes

BUT I am very glad that you're feeling strength sweetie

This is what I tend to do

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/02/16/8-tips-to-help-stop-ruminating/

thanks Jan. I am sorry you struggle with this.
Peace, M

Me too, I ruminate on things I'm anxious about, wish I could change, or depressed about - all negative.

I'm glad it's a source of strength for you, Mark.

You know what, mark? It's not "quite" the same thing, and yet I think it Is...I used to have a Really hard time when I worked afternoon shifts. Or when I had an appointment to get to, that was in the afternoon.

Because I had alllllllll morning to Think about it, and that caused anxiety. Even when it Wasn't something I "should" be worried about.

When I would Promise (or close to it) to go somewhere "later in the week", or Next week, and it was something I wasn't Sure I wanted to go to, I would end up finding a Reason NOT to go. Like anxiety, or just something In me that got out-of-hand from thinking too much about it - you know?

Ruminating. Contemplating; mulling something over. Round and round and round....talking ourselves Into, and Out of, anything and everything.

(I love meditating now, and I do it with Purpose, but I try not to think of Anything while I'm doing it! lol)

Yes, sometimes, "thinking" can be my Worst enemy - if I already THINK I have a chance to think myself Out of something. :/

I thought cows ruminated ?

All kidding aside

I was impressed by the Link SunCloud put up.

Saying..."Think On The Worst Case Senerio"

And then realize in all likelihood , you'd be able to handle it !

Rumination...yea, I do that

Yep, I get stuck like a broken record and ruminate. It's negative for me and not a positive.

i used to, but through the nagual i have learned to be completely in the moment.

we're all different. if it is a source of strength for you, then i am glad you do this, because strength is a precious commodity, and anything that brings my friends strength is awesome in my books!

without thought and rumination we are nothing. I am glad it gives you strength. if you vacillate a little who cares so long as things generally work out well. was it Descartes who said 'I think, therefore I am' ? our minds are our greatest strengths. hugs

Oh my gosh, Doormawss totally read my mind - that is EXACTLY what I do with afternoon appts, things in the future, etc! I ruminate like crazy on that stuff and cancel, cancel, cancel all the time cuz I convince myself of something or other crazy that I come to believe is truth about what will happen at that future event down the road. That is the main focus of my rumination.

I'm glad you are finding strength in this process.

When I am really depressed I get thoughts in my head about all the sad things that have happened to me in my life even m cat dying in 2009. My fiance knows im doing it bc I wont stop crying and she will beg me to stop but its like I cant control all these negative thoughts from flooding my mind. It sucks to be us sometimes doesnt it?

You mean it's not NORMAL????
I live that way. I have to jolt myself into the "NOW". I'm trying to get better at it. I found that dwelling on anything good or bad is not good for me. People always tell me I overthink stuff. I don't know how not to!
It's a struggle.

I used to constantly do this.It was like I was possessed or something.I could talk myself out of anything,over think everything etc. Then I found Buddhism & it has taught me how to live in the now & not worry about the parts inbetween. I'm a much better person for it.