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Relationship struggles

Roots91
Roots91
It seems that no matter what I do, no matter how well I treat a girl, I just get screwed over when it comes to relationships. I've been dumped three times this summer, twice by the same girl over very poor and messy circumstances, and it is really just getting to me. I thought I finally had a nice thing going, I had a lunch date planned with a girl, and she went and got in a relationship with someone and hasn't even said anything to me. I had to find out through facebook of all things.
deleted_user
deleted_user
hang in there man. women are a difficult breed. I was 26 before I settled down. it will happen. best way to look at is, is the good old saying that is tried and true; what doesn't knock us down only makes us stronger. Find what you can learn from it, and do whatever it was you were doing before - ie school, your job, going to the gym- , just focus on that, and know you are going to work past whatever hurdles you are currently going through. It is never easy, no matter what anyone says. you get the feeling of " I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life" and just know out of 6 billion people in the world, the chances of that happening to you is slim.

bottom line " fuck those bitches"
Roots91
Roots91
haha thanks a lot man. your message really cheered me up. all very good advice, thanks again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
maybe reevaluate the type of girls you are dating?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Patient gave some really good advice, and yes women are a difficult breed, but women think the same about men. You are not alone in this endeavor in finding someone who is the right one for you. Just know you are still young and the right one will come along when you least expect it.

And don't jump into anything too quickly. I tell everyone it takes 6 months to really get to know a person as their true colors come out. But most of us are too impatient and jump in way too soon ending up in a relationship that is hurtful. Been married 14 years to someone who is a great person overall, but not good in the intimacy part of it and does not get involved in anything I like. It really leaves me depressed more often. Opposites attract but too opposite is not good either.

So date selectively and be patient until you find the right one who likes to do at least one or 2 things that you like to do, is not boring, listens, keeps you feeling alive. Look for a best friend and let it develop into something special. That's the best way!

Can you tell I'm bored to death in my relationship as I am always in here writing the longest posts ever. :-( It keeps me surviving as I have been feeling rather hopeless.