Just had to share this with you all...I started reading a good book called "Boundaries" that was recommended to me by a member of this group. There is a woman here at home who's very loud and insulting about other people's size (she used to weigh 400 pounds,then had gastric bypass surgery and is now about 150, she's even taller than I and is quite thin). Truth be told,one of the reasons I "hide" in my room upstairs all day is because of her loudness and rudeness. Tonight she more or less told me I need to start doing crafts. I said "I'm not interested" and went back to my book. (Actually,though,I may try my hand at craft-work,because I know from experience that keeping your hands busy is soothing to your mind.) Not going to cut off my nose to spite my face. But,the look on her face was priceless (and she actually shut up for a while). I FEEL GOOD!!!