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Has anyone noticed when a woman becomes a widow a great deal of people come over and tell her to get a roommate? What are they implying? And here is my message for all of you young people...Just because I am 61 doesnt mean that I am going to wind up in a nursing home or in a wheelchair.This ideas is idiotic and i am getting tired of hearing about it.I know that my brother means well..but there has been horror stories about some of these roommates.In 1981...up in New York State...there was a robbery.These people robbed an armour truck and one of the guards didnt make it.She was living under an assumed name and her roomate didnt know who she was.When the story broke...guess what happened? This innocent gir who was duped...lost her job and lost that apartment because no one believed her.That was 25 years ago and it can still happend today.Do you
know that some people today are not living by
their right name? Some are in the Federal Witness Program and those people I can see..but what about other people who have been victimized in seattle? And this is why I dont want a roommate.There is no federal law about the selection of agencies for roommates.Anyone can come in in seattle and view the tape.Will suppose she/he is a serial killer? Or that girl who did not know that he was a rapist? Do you know how she is suffering here because noone believes her.I asked the police at the community center and told me that my fears are really unreal and people are generally honest.Are they? DO you know a girl in seattle has to testify against her roommate? Her roommate opened up a charge account in this girls name and was charging stuff like you can believe...she didnt know a thing about it until an angry collection agency called her.Another girl took in a guy who was very secretive.He always paid her the rent in cash and helped her with the bills.He brought her a new cat after hers died and came home recently with a little kitten.He did the dishes and cooked the meals.he was just so unbelievable.He is now in the Pierce County Jail because he is a serial rapist and noone believes her.When I heard her story and how people dont believe her...let me say this...people today dont talk.And how is she suppose to know where he goes? He tells her he was going to work? What is she going to do? SHe has been so stressed that she cant work and she is advising people about roommates.My Doctor told me not to rush into any romance as of now.He said the 14 years with Brad was enough and I suffered great physical and mental abuse for the two weeks before Brads suicide and he is kind of leary about some people.I havent dated anyone.I remember the good times that i had with Brad.I remember his laughter and i remember how much he loved Seinfeld.And I remember our first date...and this warm wonderful man was very,very unhappy he had a disease..it is called alcoholism and it affects everyone and everything.2 days before he committe suicide..brad gave me an envelope.In the envelope was the rent for 4 months and another one.He told me not to tell his sister and brother about this.He didnt want anyone to put their money to bury him.He wanted to be cremated.He said goodbye to me.Brad also gave me a little spending money to take care of the house.So I aske him "Are you saying goodbye.?"And he did not answer.Now let me also comment.After Brad died at 7 o clock in the morning on 5/22/09...I waited 5 hours.I called the crisis line in seattle.I called my psychiarist and i called my case manager.I told them what had happened and i said these words.."Joe..Brad is dead.He killed herself and left me with a little money to take care of the house.Lets work on another project.I NEED A PART TIME JOB.I NEED A JOB EFFECTIVE IN SEPTMEMBER..AND I NEED IT NOW." I start the class on jobs for 4 weeks on June 16th.I have to do this.I refuse to leave this house.Brad told me in this letter not to leave this house because he loved it and not to separate the cats and to sell the cars if I need anymore money and I will let anyone know how I do.But having a roommmate scares me...doesnt it scare you? Can you give me any suggestions?Who do i go to ? Are these agencies safe? Vader....
know that some people today are not living by
their right name? Some are in the Federal Witness Program and those people I can see..but what about other people who have been victimized in seattle? And this is why I dont want a roommate.There is no federal law about the selection of agencies for roommates.Anyone can come in in seattle and view the tape.Will suppose she/he is a serial killer? Or that girl who did not know that he was a rapist? Do you know how she is suffering here because noone believes her.I asked the police at the community center and told me that my fears are really unreal and people are generally honest.Are they? DO you know a girl in seattle has to testify against her roommate? Her roommate opened up a charge account in this girls name and was charging stuff like you can believe...she didnt know a thing about it until an angry collection agency called her.Another girl took in a guy who was very secretive.He always paid her the rent in cash and helped her with the bills.He brought her a new cat after hers died and came home recently with a little kitten.He did the dishes and cooked the meals.he was just so unbelievable.He is now in the Pierce County Jail because he is a serial rapist and noone believes her.When I heard her story and how people dont believe her...let me say this...people today dont talk.And how is she suppose to know where he goes? He tells her he was going to work? What is she going to do? SHe has been so stressed that she cant work and she is advising people about roommates.My Doctor told me not to rush into any romance as of now.He said the 14 years with Brad was enough and I suffered great physical and mental abuse for the two weeks before Brads suicide and he is kind of leary about some people.I havent dated anyone.I remember the good times that i had with Brad.I remember his laughter and i remember how much he loved Seinfeld.And I remember our first date...and this warm wonderful man was very,very unhappy he had a disease..it is called alcoholism and it affects everyone and everything.2 days before he committe suicide..brad gave me an envelope.In the envelope was the rent for 4 months and another one.He told me not to tell his sister and brother about this.He didnt want anyone to put their money to bury him.He wanted to be cremated.He said goodbye to me.Brad also gave me a little spending money to take care of the house.So I aske him "Are you saying goodbye.?"And he did not answer.Now let me also comment.After Brad died at 7 o clock in the morning on 5/22/09...I waited 5 hours.I called the crisis line in seattle.I called my psychiarist and i called my case manager.I told them what had happened and i said these words.."Joe..Brad is dead.He killed herself and left me with a little money to take care of the house.Lets work on another project.I NEED A PART TIME JOB.I NEED A JOB EFFECTIVE IN SEPTMEMBER..AND I NEED IT NOW." I start the class on jobs for 4 weeks on June 16th.I have to do this.I refuse to leave this house.Brad told me in this letter not to leave this house because he loved it and not to separate the cats and to sell the cars if I need anymore money and I will let anyone know how I do.But having a roommmate scares me...doesnt it scare you? Can you give me any suggestions?Who do i go to ? Are these agencies safe? Vader....
tommymott
I think we can let our fear get out of hand but that doesn't mean that there aren't real risks in the roommate situation. I enjoy living on my own (ok, my autistic son lives with me but I have no live-in love or non-family member around). I haven't known anyone who had a good experience with a roommate. It just doesn't work let alone if the person is some kind of criminal. So I think it's fine if you want to live alone and work towards being employed. We should all do what we want to.
deleted_user
I think that Seattle is a very large place and it sounds as if you're focusing on the few bad instances that you've heard of. The reality is that at your age, it's going to be hard to find a job that pays very much and it sounds like you're going to need a fair amount to keep your home and keep it running. There are agencies that do very good screenings for roomates, etc. they do criminal background checks and everything.....
vader
Thanks for all of the very nice comments.But why do people always assume that single women cant live by themselves? I have been so busy trying to understand Brads suicide.Brad did not want to be left alone and he was always with me.I called the landlord about the rent and sent him the copy of the death certificate and guess what? THE HOUSE ISNT UP FOR FORECLOSURE AND IT IS NOT FOR SALE.....HE WAS WORKING ON A LEASE....AND I WILL GET A NEW LEASE FOR 6 MONTHS SOON.iT CANT BE FOR 2 years..but ti will be for 6 months.It is just so unbelieveable here now..You cant get a decent place to live.Everyone that i know wants to retire here.
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