Tell him to F off and move out. no one deserves this nonsense.
you are 12 ? no you are 18- grow a pair. Be strong! you can do it. Do you have one trusted friend? otherwise keep coming back. Dont be a victim please.

Are you new to this group? Are you bipolar? If so, I hope you're receiving psychiatric help and possibly some type of therapy. Welcome to the group and feel free to post what's going on with you. We are here for you. Is there anywhere else is that you can live? If not, try to ignore your dad and just go about your business as if he's not there. I know, easier said than done. But, you are an adult now, and you have options. Hang in there and get the help you need. I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers your way!

Hugs,
Catherine

I agree with Cat. You're an adult, you have options. Start working towards moving out. Save money, look at different resources you have available in your area. Dont be a victim any longer. Take control and do what you want with your life. Maybe move in with a friend or relative in the meantime?

Good luck and big ((hugs))!

Big hug for you Mace..... Welcome..... I am so sorry the people that should be showing you love are hurting you

I agree to start thinking about what you can do to make your situation better.... I know it's really hard when you've been hurt for so long however you can start to take your life into your own hands.... You can grow and thrive..... Be good to you.... You deserve it...… Another hug and a blessing.....xo

I’m sorry to hear that your parents haven’t been able to give you what you need as a child growing up. Not making excuses for them, but perhaps that’s all they know, because it’s what they experienced as well. You can’t change them. However, that doesn’t have to be your life. It’s a cycle that gets passed down generation after generation. It only takes one person to stop the cycle. That person could be you. You can be the one to change the dynamic of an abusive, dysfunctional family. It starts with setting boundaries for yourself. One thing I learned from my father is that I would never live up to his expectations because they were too high, so I saw myself as a failure. Eventually, I learned that whatever I did, there was no pleasing him, which is when I stopped trying to seek acceptance from him.

If you have no place else to go other than your dads, perhaps getting a job, hanging out with friends, finding a hobby, might be helpful in spending as much time away from home as possible. Only going there to sleep, eat, bathe. Just because he says hurtful things to you doesn’t mean that you have to accept them. It takes a stronger person inside to be able to be a louder, more positive voice than that of the abuser. The abuser abuses because they choose to continue the cycle, perhaps not even knowing what they are doing, although deep down, they know they are full of never-ending shame. They keep trying to cover it up.

Have you looked into seeing a counselor to help you overcome this abuse and eating disorder? If you don’t have the resources, maybe you could call some local churches, many of them have onsite counselors/therapists that could help you work through this and they also have libraries with many helpful books to read. I wish you the best and hope you find that helping hand.

@ mlj6019 - I see you are new - are you bipolar, if so welcome - perhaps you would like to post an introduction thread?

So sorry to hear about your situation. I will pray for you. Have hope, you've so much life left to live and you can make it great no matter what your we parents say. I choose to believe in you, believe in yourself!

That’s horrible!! They’re just putting you down because they are so unhappy with themselves. Decent people don’t go around tearing down other human beings. Is there ANYWHERE else you can go?