He is your EX for a reason ? !

Allow your daughter time with her dad...you...I'd keep my distance and keep communications limited

Good luck

I think a lot of people go through the cloud nine feeling when first getting out of prison...
Unless there's a really good reason to keep him and his children separated it's important for them to have their father in their lives..
I hope that there's no trouble for you sweetie... Great big hug for ya...x

Yes he's my Ex for a reason.

I want him to see his kids. I don't think there is a reason not to. Every thing has to go through me right now Because they are in a school where only I have access to them and he doesn't. that means when they come home only then can he see them. So I have to be involved.

But I think the problem is that he said he wants us to be friends and I thought that meant on terms where we don't fight when we have to communicate. But now I realize he meant more than that, like actual friends that hang out. Also I'm aware he may have other plans.

He's barking up the really wrong tree because I have no interest in him. My feelings for him are long dead.

I don't hate him and I don't care I'll be friends if he wants but I can't emphasize enough that it will never be more than that to him. He says he understands but I'm not sure he really does.

So far he is being on his best behavior. We will see how long that lasts.

I just have to make sure he doesn't get carried away or I don't get swept away. I'm on high alert.

I'm sure things will calm down once he makes a few other new friends. He just got out of jail and I'm sure that he will be excited for awhile.

((((BIG HUG))))) My Wasband tried to be my friend, "make it up to me", get it right, be my friend and best friend! Laughter - we have history and of course attraction BUT I used to go read his letters and his and think "I fuck up too"

Here are YOU words on the subject - before he got out of jail...

""""I didn't know I had so much anger but now that My ex is slapping me in the face with his existence I'm finding out I still have a lot of rage left in me.

I was so much happier not knowing he was alive or where he was at. I could pretend he was dead and I didn't have to deal with anything. But I always secretly knew there would come a day when my ex would come back into my world.

I'm also terrified of him because I've seen first hand all the damage he has done. Not just to me but even people who were just his friends. He is a life destroyer. That's why I'm concerned about his interaction with my children. """"

If you always do, what you've always done - You will always get, what you always got..." Seeing your daughter is important - but talking/texting is a mistake you've made before - make new mistakes!!!! ((((BIG HUG))))

My alcoholic Wasband is now a crackhead drunk with 4 small children...still getting arrested (Yes, I can read dockets and records too) it is tempting to talk to him too, but I WON'T

you've made good points there Gina.

I am still terrified.

Hopefully the problem's solved it's self though since he turned all psycho and said goodbye that we can't talk any more. I have no idea what that's all about. But if he isn't talking to me any more than oh well it's not my problem.

Been there done that. If u need someone to talk to by all means I'm here. ((HUGS))

I really feel for you I was married to a man in prison and of course they are happy when they get out and tell you every thing you want to hear, I have changed, I love you so much, It will be better when I get out, You name it I have heard it, I have had all the love letters which I call the box of lies that I had to throw away and I have been tempted to talk to my ex but like Gina said I wont, I would rather not know where he is or any thing about him, He ruined me literaly and I am still trying to recover, If you want to talk to a women that has been there and knows all about prison life, You can write to me any time, I would get some one as a go between, So your daughter and him can have contact with out you having to get involved, I would stop calling and texting, You seem scared for a reason and if you need a PPO you better do it, You just have me worried for your safety, Like I said I have been there and I wish I never was

Do not answer anymore calls or texts from him, unless it's about your child. He as tricked you once, he thinks he can do this again. Every convicted felon is ''saved'' while they are in jail or prison. Funny how when they get out, God is somehow left behind.! LOL !! I would be very careful. The only thing abusers change are their victims. They will tell you anything they think you want to hear..As long as it seems that your ex does not pose a threat to your daughter, let him see her. However, you meet him in a public place, for the exchange, and bring a friend with you. Believe me, he'll be on his best behavior for a while, then he'll go back to his ''real'' self. Be safe.

Remember the reasons why he is an ex and the decision you made to leave him, if you need more space don't reply to most of his texts he will get the message and his hyper happy state will calm naturally over time. If you really feel pushed by him to go out for a drink etc or he stays too long when he calls round to see his daughter then maybe have him pick her up and drop her off from a different address or have a friend there for support or to see her off.

Well this situation is complicated since I don't have custody on paper. I feel like I shouldn't piss him off just in case he would get any insane ideas about taking the kids out of school and running away with them.

I think in the mean time I will be calling domestic relations like I should have years ago and get custody written up.


As far as the friend ship thing goes I will definitely distance myself from him.