Sorry for the spelling mistakes , damn auto spelling ....

Nobody deserves abuse. I was in a 5 year relationship where I was beat, raped and treated like shit. You dont deserve that . You will end finding a good guy. I had to wait along time but my 2nd and current husband is great to me.

A lot of problems come out of porn. It distorts the realities of relationships and makes it impossible to form a healthy relationship. Avoid porn like it was the plague, it is!

Most people have porn stashes that's just the reality of things though. I found my grandpa's porn underneath his mattress. Was really tricky asking Grandma what it was - she went nuclear. Anyway, I wasn't scared and I still just think of Grandpa as a human being. I don't blame Grandpa though - I never thought of it that way, it just seems kinda funny how red Grandma turned and how badly that poor fellow was cornered. Maybe you should cut you and your Dad a break. You like freaky porn. Most people do. It's not even odd.
Cheers

I think you should stop blaming your dad, and get some therapy.
Not that I approve of porn , but it is something that many men are drawn to.
Now, if you are referring to the same dad who kissed you { on a previous Topic}..yeah, that's seriously messed up on his part...but still, therapy will help.

Some porn is ok, and the other stuff is really effed. Definitely not a model for healthy relationships, unless it's the kind of stuff you get from a sex therapist.

I agree with Tommy, and do think therapy could definitely help. Whatever has happened...the porn...and what DD mentioned...in regards to there being a kiss. I never read that, but either way, therapy is a good deal.

Also, I wonder if you're still in contact with him? I don't know your situation. It seems a set of firm boundaries might also need to be set?

Good luck. :)

Haha...re: your comment #1...auto correct/spelling sucks. I turned mine off.

Well, I should say I wasn't laughing AT response #1, just meant to laugh WITH you. Hope that came off that way.

Gotta find the humor and smiles where you can.

My dad , the one with the porn problem is dead now , my stepdad , the one with the kiss problem is alive .

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my dad at 15 years of age, and looking at your profile, you are young. That's tough.

I think like the others that have replied, the stepdad and kiss thing is extremely alarming and hope you can get it in check NOW somehow in some way.

nope.. porn does not degrade a relationship unless the people in the relationship havent agreed on the porn.

I have been on both sides of this. one a raging porn addict the other a conformist porn prude. (neither of those are good)

you can reset your sexual likes and dislikes, but it takes work....lots of it. first abstain from any sexual touch whatsoever until you are about to climax in your dreams, asleep..then masturbate thinking of nothing other than thoughts you want to enjoy sex to. if those are thoughts of love and good treatment. masturbate to nothing but those thoughts.. do that every time for as long as it takes for that to be your go to.. if you start to get hasty for climax and your thoughts go to bad stuff, shut it down and try again a couple of days later...yes, this will give you blue balls, no matter if you have balls or not, but it is the one sure way to reset your sexual likes.

your sexual preference can be changed.. just like circadian rhythm..but you have to want it and work at it.

so enough with the porno bashing..some of us singles have worn out the ability to be imaginative.. ffs.

and my future husband, if there should be one, better not be covered in pink and butterflies. did that and it didnt go well..still wondering if he is/was gay.

better be a slight asshole, but respectful toward me, with a hand to bulls eye on my ass cheek. next time.. i dont want an amateur. to each their own i suppose.

if people look for a reason to blame anything on anyone else, they will find it. accepting yourself for who you are..accepting your kink for what it is, is probably the only way you can rise above it. take ownership. better now while you are still young.

My fantasies used to involve violence and force. It was a theme for the better part of my life. And I too learned about porn from daddy's literary collection. I loved my daddy a lot. He died when I was 18.

there is a a lot of threads twisted up together here, I expect. For me, the Electra myth was huge. I loved daddy but could not have him...obvious taboos which have a purpose...and then he was gone. Pure sadness, longing and obsession with sex and porn for me (not sex with my father...ick) I'm finally finding healing and peace and sexual wholeness years and years down the road. Therapy, therapy therapy!

I'm sorry about step dad trying to step in. CREEP! It is not your fault dear girl. But make efforts to maintain boundaries with him. Get a door lock. Keep it looked. Stay away from him. Start planning escape.

I understand you are in a country that doesn't appreciate the rights of women as humans. I will hope and pray for the best for you. xo

Talk with the therpist about healthy lifestyles within this subject. My family of origin stresses a healthy s** life and they aren't kidding. I think that if you repress or have an unhealthy thing happen to you (abuses) then it gets more difficult.