Sounds like he has the issues is he normally so mad if so stay away from him if this is an odd occurance and he's not normally like this just let it go and ask him about it when your both calm

I'd get away from him as soon as possible. No matter his issues it's his problem to correct those but your safety is most important.

Why would you be with someone who speaks to you like this? Beside the "die" comment, the names he calls you, the language he uses....why would you be with someone like this?

Abusive relationship in the making.

Was he having a manic episode?

I read your other post, where you described him exhibiting the same behaviors. Without question, he is abusive. There aren't any circumstances that warrant him calling you vulgar names and wishing you dead. Someone who loves you doesn't do that...ever. You mentioned in your other post that he has good qualities, and you are even talking about marriage (!). What good qualities negate this awful behavior? Ultimately, you determine whether you are willing to put up with how he treats you. I believe you deserve better. Question is: Do you believe that?

Leave him. You deserve to be lived and respected. That is not respect. Regardless of what other "good" qualities you think he has, that is one bad quality that you should avoid. Leave his sorry ass and love yourself.

he doesn't have bipolar disorder. I'm just upset he said its a phrase and I'm blowing it out of proportion. He said that he is sorry that he doesn't want me dead. At this point I can't let this go. I don't have a family member to my name. I need to get an Apartment. I need to do better at work. I work in sales and my numbers have been low. So I need to hit my numbers so I don't get fired. I need to start saving. I'm 30 he is 33. We have only been together 10 months. I just feel like this is unhealthy. His rational about telling me to go fuck off and die cunt is that its a phrase. I've heard him say this about other people. he said calling him scum is like telling him to die. He said after all the thousands of dollars he's spent on me how can I call him scum. I said you called me ugly. He said you were making a ugly face but to call me scum how dare you. thats why I told you to go fuck off and die bitch I didn't say cunt. I'm sorry especially for someone like you who has bp and been suicidal I should know better because of my moms severe schizophrenia and her being suicidal.

A person who spoke like that to ANYONE, especially to ME would be a person I would get away from immediately and permanently. What kind of thought process comes up with language like that? He has been extremely disrespectful to you, and his attitude that such foul language is "just a phrase" is very scary. No one deserves to be spoken to in that manner. I hope you can love yourself enough to see this behavior for what it really is and LEAVE. This practice of verbally insulting each other back and forth will only get worse the longer you put up with it. You deserve to be spoken to with love and kindness.

It's abusive period and if it's like this after 10 months can you imagine as time goes on???.... There is NO excuse for this... None... It's hateful and ugly... Don't allow this to go on sweetie... I would rather be on my own any day then to put up with this crap and he's trying to turn the tables onto you... This is what power mongers do!

I agree with suncloud, it is completely abusive and regardless of any phase, he should never talk to anyone that way and especially someone he claims to love or want a life with. You need to get away from him and quickly. He will ruin your self-esteem and who knows how much worse the abuse will get over time. You deserve better you deserve someone who will cherish you and help you through the hard times. I would go so quickly. It's your choice but you really don't need to be in a relationship where someone thinks that language or to tell you to go die is okay because it's not. I hope you can determine a way out and eventually someone who deserves to have you will come into your life and you will be cherished. Hang in there and as long as you have to be with him, please, don't ever believe such hurtful words. Hugs!

There is always honeymooning phases after abuse be it physical, emotional, sexual etc... this is why people make excuses for their behaviour

I was in a relationship like yours for 27 years. In a lot of ways I have a wasted life. Don't waste your life with a guy who abuses you. Find someone who talks to you nicely and never calls you names. Find a man who is confident in himself and doesn't need to put you down to feel better about himself. I pray you can get out of this bad situation your in.

I sat in front of the train station thinking about jumping in front of it. The first one that went by was in front of the stop so I had to move my car to where it was passing faster. My boyfriend freaked out because I texted him. I just got so triggered. He called my pdoc. He freaked out I finally broke down and told him where I was. He promised to never call me names or speak to me that way. I didn't get locked up thank God because he asked my pdoc what do I do about someone he didn't admit I was the patient. I can't be locked up right now with work. My boyfriend has grown up with his mom who sufferes severe schizophrenia. I've heard him tell others to fuck off and die. But he now knows not to speak to me that way. I'm really depressed. I'm scared because Suicide isn't so scary if its instant. I feel like I love myself enough to end it. But since I didn't do it. The only thing I can control is my weight and food intake. This control makes me happy. I hate bp.

Hun, just because you scared him with a text about jumping in front of a train, does not mean he's going to change. And this isn't about you having BP. He's verbally and emotionally abusive. He's not going to change that. Unless you can get him to go to a class on anger and emotional abuse, he's not going to change. This is not someone you want to be with because your scared to be alone.

I stayed with my alcoholic, abusive husband for 24 years because I was scared to be alone. It didn't matter that I had the College Degrees and brought home all the money, it didn't matter that I was the one who took care of our 2 sons, it didn't matter that I had BiPolar and 7 other medical illnesses that required me to have 30 surgeries in 17 years, I was still the one who held down a full time job, bought our homes and made sure we had insurance coverage, etc. LOL and I was scared to leave the loser because at 43 I'd never lived alone before. Well finally I had enough and left him and it's been a dream. I love living alone. My sons live here on and off and my S.O. stays here and there, but for the most part I live alone and I love it! And hell would freeze over before I'd let any damn man talk to me like that.

There are always ways to make it without a man, you don't have to have a guy around to make it. You deserve better than some guy calling you those kinds of names and speaking to you like that. You need to step back and look at the situation...that man is not going to change, and you deserve so much better, so so much better.