Well, my 2 kids are going to be with me for Mom's Day.
I don't feel like I am the best mom or the worst mom. I used to feel like I was a terrible mom. However, I know it's difficult being a great mom, because of my BP and Codependency.

I LOVE my kids!!!!!!They know I love them!!!!!!LOVE IS IMPORTANT!!!!!!!!!

Love, heathercliff

I bet your kids would welcome you with open arms even after isolating for a year!

They would be happy just to know you are there again and seeing you well.

What do you have to lose to try?

forgiveness is helpful (don't hit me lol). Had a tough relationship with my mom but letting go of difficult feelings about it was the best thing ever, for me. MInd you I did stop talking to her for a couple of years first which helped loads too

don't celebrate Mother's day though (it's commercial being the old refrain- care of mom) x

Already did the mothers day thing with my mom, my mothers day might suck....
my son and are in a standoff right now and i aint budging.....no disrespecting mama here...

but the really cool thing is my daughter drew me a mothers day card : )

she could sense i woke up depressed and keeps rubbing my arms : )

this disorder makes us constantly question if we are good moms or bad moms....we are only humans(with a crummy disorder)

it'll be a good one hanna : )

Spending the day with my outlaws and not happy about it - MIL is not being helpful with my man's addiction issues.

It's not a question of whether or not I'm a bad Mom...I know I have been. I'm so irritable that I don't want to take it out on them, so I just hide out most of the time.

There's only so much I can forgive before it drives me batshit crazy. I can't wait to move the hell out of here. I wouldn't be surprised if I cut off communication with my Mom for a good while.

My sister tells me that we're having some sort of Mother's Day dinner tomorrow. I live here (she doesn't) and she knows and I don't....just goes to show you the extent of how little I can stand talking to her right now.

Hanna~~

I'm sorry you're fixing to have a complicated Mother's Day. I hope you get an unexpected surprise -- a happy day.

I'm meeting Baby #1 and Baby #3 for late lunch/early dinner tomorrow in the city. I also asked if Gramma Baby could come. The Babies said "Sure .... but you're the one who has to put up with her for the drive up and back." Hahaha ... so true.

I'm excited .... going to see Baby #1's wedding dress again and she's going to see my wedding outfit which turned out to be beaded (we didn't think it was and Baby #1 didn't want me too blinged out.) Surprise!! :) Gotta go find something cute to wear.

I've been waiting for this kind of post.

All this past week I've been thinking about Mother's Day and that while it will be a great day for plenty of families, there's plenty of people on here for whom it will be a difficult and unhappy time.

My mother doesn't want a gift from me. And I told my daughter the same thing.
Outside of a perfunctory 'Happy Mother's Day', this is going to be just another day.

Well, almost.

My 30 year old Autistic son will be with me and he showed me a piece of paper (he's not verbal) and the paper says, LOL ...

May 13, 2012
Sunday
Mother's Day

Home Depot (and underneath it, the exact address, city, and state listed, LOLOL!!!!)

And then, under that, he has ...

Jewel Food Stores (and the exact address, city, and state!!!)

Home Depot, he just likes to walk through the place.

But I have a feeling that when we get into the grocery store, he's going to force me to buy a cake of his choosing, because we have to celebrate Mother's Day, LOL!!!

For all the DS members who are going to have a happy and loving day tomorrow, congratulations!!! I'm very happy for all of you!!!!

For all the DS members who will be having a difficult day filled with sadness and/or anger, I'm very sorry. I hope the day passes quickly and goes better than you thought it would.

(((((HugsToAll)))))

@carla.
The part about your son made me wanna cry happy tears....I know those cards and expressions!!
Happy mothers day to a special mama!!!

I am not a mother, thanks to cancer. I do have a child in heaven though (tubal pregnancy many years ago). I have a mean, negative mom that I get to go over and visit tomorrow though. Dont get me wrong...i love my mother dearly, but she and her husband are not nice to me a lot of the time.

I am surprising my mom with gifts from the resort. I will not see my kids and it bums me out. not my weekend, but I'm having a blast.

I'm a good mom. I'm not perfect, but I'm there for my kids and we have a lot of fun and give a lot of hugs. aside from that and getting necessities met. I don't know if anything constitutes a better one.

don't sell yourselves short. happy mothers day.

Yesterday I went shopping and bought my ma a bathing suit from fashion bug.
To avoid my nasty mean ass brother I went over there last night and gave it to her just to avoid him.'
I think she liked it? and a card and some sugar free candy.
WE are both supposed to sign up at the YMCA to do water aerobics.
My Husband got me a beautiful card that made me wanta cry.
My 18 yr old son got me a beautiful card, perfume, and a sipping glass that says # 1 mom and a box of turtles candy.
After giving this to me , all he wanted to do is get outa the house.
so F it , i just let him go.
He can barely stand to be around me , even though he knows I might not be here for long.
So today , just another day... of him wanting to go be with his friends and not me , then my husband will probably make us dinner, spaghetti with garlic bread and a nice salad.
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL THE MOM'S .
I HOPE U ALL GET WHAT U DESERVE!
we all work hard on being a good parent, but kids don't come with a book.
all we can do is do our best!
Best of luck to all. today ..
Always Silky ~

Unfortunately I am working for Mothers day. It's kinda weird, my kids are still going to get together and have lunch. Maybe they will think of me, lol. Hope everyone has a great mothers day. Oh, HannaHana, don't be so hard on yourself. My kids went through several deep depressions with me and I wish they had never seen me that way. There were times they had to stay with my family because I either couldn't get out of bed or was in the hospital. They are grown now and our relationship is wonderful. They are old enough to sort of understand my illness. We all deserve a good mothers day. It's not easy to parent with BP. Hang in there. I hope it gets better for you. Hugs.

I love my Mother she is the only 1 that I will ever have. I so dislike her in many ways & I couldn't take another 1.
for my own overall will being& for an old woman well being, I send her flowers the wk before Mothers day and ( userly the dy before ) she gets a card from me. I knnow it makes her feel good. it's the least that we can do even for strangers is to put/add a shimmer of aw/sunshine in thier lives.
I was the best Mother that I could be. that doesn't make me a good nor bad Mother. due to my illness, I too questioned & question myself about my having been at least a fair Mother. all we can do is to do what we can when we can.
It would be nice to be welcome, at any given time, bk into our children lives, no matter where they are in thier own lives.
the good thing is when thier busy w thier own lives they too reappear - even for 1/2 hr from time to time.
go easy on yourself. by the way. from 1 Mother to another, Happy Mother day.

Try to remember we are all blessed to have given birth to our children, and have had the opportunity to love them as much as they have loved us, even if it is in their own special way.....

I still am in awe that I have these two incredible sons that I have the privaledge to say I am their mom.....

Lots of giggles and wet kisses today.... plus I invited my mom and sister out to brunch along with Jeff and the kids today.... exchange cards and just be together.

Crossing my sister doesn't ruin it for all of us, she's really not right with her BP symptoms.... I told my mom is she says anything inappropriate, I am going to ask them to leave...