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i'm in need of advice. my best friend used to live in the apartment above mine. we were always together in my apartment because it was nicer and i live alone. well his lease was up and he stayed with me for a bit (a week or so?) while he found an apartment. i went home for about 3 weeks or a month after i was hospitalized for an episode. he lived there that whole time, which was fine because i thought he'd keep it clean.
i came home to find he had accepted all kinds of furniture from people and was using my apartment as a sort of storage unit. he had also completely trashed my apartment, it was still very very messy when i got home (i had told him about 2 days in advance when i was coming home, thinking he'd have it ready when i arrived) and didn't change the sheets on my bed after he'd slept there for a month. maybe i'm being weird but, c'mon it's a little disrespectful.
so he moved out because he got a job and i didn't see him for a while. then last week i came to find him on my doorstep surrounded by all his wordly possessions. of course my heart melted and i had to let him stay. well the same thing happened. i would leave for work (i work 9-5, despite being the student in this situation - he graduated in may) and he would sleep in (migrating from the couch to my bed, i HATE people in my bed and he is really aware of this.) while blasting the air conditioning (which i pay for) and i would get home to find my apartment messier than when i had left.
this was obviously stressful and having had an episode only 2 months ago i'm really trying to control my bipolar and balance a 9-5, in addition to a lot of other stresses. this was just one more thing.
all i ask him to do is dishes & take out the trash. i clean everything else. he has done the dishes once after i nagged him for 3 days and he has never taken out the trash.
he sits at home on my computer while i'm at work and has yet to have a job interview. i am done.
he is my best friend, i love him to death and i know he is in a rough spot financially. but this cannot be my responsibility anymore. i'm afraid if i kick him out he'll be on the street or something. but it really can't be my problem. i have let him live rent free and have paid for food for the past week. it's time for him to find somewhere else to stay.
am i being completely selfish?
i came home to find he had accepted all kinds of furniture from people and was using my apartment as a sort of storage unit. he had also completely trashed my apartment, it was still very very messy when i got home (i had told him about 2 days in advance when i was coming home, thinking he'd have it ready when i arrived) and didn't change the sheets on my bed after he'd slept there for a month. maybe i'm being weird but, c'mon it's a little disrespectful.
so he moved out because he got a job and i didn't see him for a while. then last week i came to find him on my doorstep surrounded by all his wordly possessions. of course my heart melted and i had to let him stay. well the same thing happened. i would leave for work (i work 9-5, despite being the student in this situation - he graduated in may) and he would sleep in (migrating from the couch to my bed, i HATE people in my bed and he is really aware of this.) while blasting the air conditioning (which i pay for) and i would get home to find my apartment messier than when i had left.
this was obviously stressful and having had an episode only 2 months ago i'm really trying to control my bipolar and balance a 9-5, in addition to a lot of other stresses. this was just one more thing.
all i ask him to do is dishes & take out the trash. i clean everything else. he has done the dishes once after i nagged him for 3 days and he has never taken out the trash.
he sits at home on my computer while i'm at work and has yet to have a job interview. i am done.
he is my best friend, i love him to death and i know he is in a rough spot financially. but this cannot be my responsibility anymore. i'm afraid if i kick him out he'll be on the street or something. but it really can't be my problem. i have let him live rent free and have paid for food for the past week. it's time for him to find somewhere else to stay.
am i being completely selfish?
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First pass word your computer that solves that problem and if there is a lock on your bedroom door start using it when you arent home - that is if you really cant boot him
deleted_user
I would very nicely boot him out and explain why. Its your space and it should be a peaceful one. He shouldn't be making a huge mess of your place, its disrespectful. Good Luck and lots of ((hugs))
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