Bipolar Disorder Support Group

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it's always somthing

beggarseam
beggarseam
that's what she said. I told her about my week. I had an egd..it was very painful. then she launched into a tirade about how I'm never healthy. how I'm always complaining and I bring my illnesses on myself. I could just slap her. good thing we live 700 miles apart.
Suninbloom
Suninbloom
Who is she and what business is your health to her?
tommymott
tommymott
It's distance that makes some relationships possible!
deleted_user
deleted_user
tommy agreed..

also luckily makes murder impossible.

sorry about whoever is downing you beggar.. people love to kick when we are down.

people who are busy judging others never have to look at the faults in themselves.
beggarseam
beggarseam
she's my older sister. later in the conversation she said I should educate myself with tv and internet so I would know as much as she does and that the doctors do and then mybe I wouldn't be such an attentioning seeking cry baby all the time.
beggarseam
beggarseam
Itell you, I was byeing into it..right up until that..then, I just thought(if I smack her hard enough she might turn into someone with some sense.
Eulenspiegel
Eulenspiegel
Once you know that someone is going to respond to your sharing with them by spitting on you and slapping YOU in the face, stop confiding in them.

It's that old 'Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.'

You have the power to make this stop.

Quit looking for the kind of love and understanding you want from her if she has shown clear signs of having no intention of doing so.

She's 700 miles away from you.
She doesn't know what's going on with you unless you tell her.
If you do tell her, then brace yourself for getting a reaction that leaves you feeling worse off.

If other family members are involved -- like you tell another relative what's going on and word gets through to your sister that way and she gets on your case, point out to her that you didn't start talking to her about it and you don't want to.

If how you describe her is an accurate assessment of how she is all or almost all of the time, then she's right about one thing: You're bringing your illness on yourself (in that one respect.)

Don't wear a 'kick me' sign.

It would be nice if your sister loved you the way you would like and in the way that a sister should, but you have to deal with the reality that she just doesn't fit that description.

You don't need her kind of input in your life!! That WILL hake you ill!!

Good luck!!
I'd like to give her a slap, myself!!!! (Well, not really. But it's kind of satisfying to imagine doing it!!)