Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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lostmyselfsomewhere 02/14/2011

Sometimes I feel like everything is shoved in my face. It's like I have no control of what happens to me. Sometimes I need to be alone, in a quiet place then bam! Family stops in, the phone starts ringing, and people start making plans without even asking me if it's what I want.

Usually I enjoy the whole family get together but when I'm struggling all I want is peace. My husband doesn't understand this. I tried to tell him it's a red flag, it's a sign of how I'm feeling. But he insists I NOT isolate myself. I don't consider it isolation, I think of it as down time.

Does anybody else get this way?

tommymott 02/14/2011

Yes, I agree with your description. We can't control what gets put in our face, we can only react in such a negative way that people will leave us alone. I hope your husband decides to be understanding and supportive. That would be nice.

deleted_user 02/14/2011

I feel that way often, I think of it as down time too. My whole family doesn't understand it, they think I am just being standoffish. I wish they could just understand that it is something I need to do for myself.

chilvr 02/14/2011

same here...my family always thought i was angry when i would self-isolate. no matter what i said, i could not get them to understand that i needed the peace and quiet, it had nothing to do with them.

deleted_user 02/14/2011

sometimes we just have to 'hibernate' to save our sanity.

dancingd 02/14/2011

Hey,
My Pdoc says a day spent in bed sleeping is an OK way to cope...as long as you don't do it too often

We all need down time to re-group our brains.
Good luck

jimlucky1 02/14/2011

yes and I have ben acused of being stuck up for it.But being forced when I am not well usualy requires me to take more benzos.

I have no problem running away from them now,its for my own good.

CarlaBent 02/14/2011

Can you talk to your husband and tell him that even though he doesn't understand it, you need him to accept it. And that when he doesn't let you isolate, he is causing you to become sicker.
Take him to the doctor's appointment with you, if you think it will help him to hear it from an expert.
I'm able to isolate almost any time I want to and am I ever glad of that!!!
I hope you can work it out so that you get the time you need!!! (((((Hugs)))))

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