He needs to take responsibility for himself. He experiences pain and unhappiness and you take the brunt by default just because your there. Its not fair. Its abusive. If it wasnt you it be somone else...his friends, co-workers, family. Its easier to find blame in others than to admit that your being an asshole. I want you to know that I am speaking from personal experience. I used to be a real asshole. I would hurt anyone who was close to me. My disorder is MY problem and I realize that now. I have a six year old named Ella and she is precious to me. I have a wife who loves and cares for me. I refuse to subject them to MY problem. Its bad enough that I have to live with this. I have an obligation to them. An obligation to love, support, and care for them. I refuse to pawn my shortcomings off on them. They deserve better than that. Best of luck. Its not you.

There's several reasons that could all be contributing to this - and it is true especially for BP's not to even recognize their own symptoms as different from normal life experience (much less own up to them)I agree, we must all be responsible for our own actions, and at the same time, please be patient with your BP in helping him realize this. A good counselor might be able to help you open his eyes gently as well as take care of yourself in the process.