IDK what I would do if I caught my hubby having cybersex with another woman. I can't get him interested in the real thing though, so I doubt that would ever come up. I have had some very "colorful" conversations. Do I consider this cheating? No, because it was with someone in England and I am in the United States, so there is no way we could ever get together and do anything.

I would say yes, cheating but that's just my 2 cents. There may be some who say it isn't so take my opinion as just that, an opinion. If I was having cybersex while I was still married I think I'd feel pretty guilty about it.

His behavior isn't a reflection on you though. He should apologize and vow never to do that again. If it bothers you and obviously it does then he should make amends, not just lip service but amending his behavior.

I'm sorry he has hurt you. I'd be hurt if I caught my s.o. carrying on online too.

Jim

Yes. It is positively cheating.
I told my husband if he ever cheated on me, I would shit on his chest in his sleep. Lol!

If I caught my husband having cybersex I would kill him, then I would find a way to bring him back to life that I can kill him again.

I think it more up to the partner to say if they feel it is cheating or not.

Ment to say partners not partner

Of course he is gonna say it's not cheating - what's the alternative?

But yes, it is cheating, since cheating is defined as a betrayal of trust. I am sorry that this happened to you, and I hope the two of you can work on the issues that led him to do this. Good Luck.

I believe it to be "emotional" cheating. He is giving away something that should just be between the two of you unless you agree otherwise. I have done this and thank God realized how much it would hurt my husband if he found out. It is something I am VERY ashamed of.

Honey, I am sorry this has happened for you. I know it must hurt terribly and you have the right to feel all the emotions that you do. However, you can take this either way and let it devour you and put a wedge between you and your husband or you can use it as a learning/teaching tool. Once you cool off, sit down and talk to him about it. Be prepared that you may not like what you hear but it is probably necessary to resolve the issue.

Sometimes people just get caught up in this. It isnt even that they set out to do it, I know I did not. Once caught up, it can be like a drug and continue to entice.....work through this with him and try to hear him with an open mind. Make it about him when listening and try to understand where he is coming from. Then share how you feel, how it made you feel to find out. He needs to know that.

You are worthy, and wonderful, and lovable and I doubt that it had to do with you at all but what was going on inside of him. Just as we hope others will forgive us for our wrongs, mistakes, mishaps, we need to forgive them and keep an open heart and mind.

I will be thinking of you......you are in my heart....xoxo

Any time a person is even having thoughts of sex with a person other than their spouse they are cheating. You don't need the physical act of sex to be a cheater.

i would say no this is not an overreaction emtioanlly he is contacting somewhere esle and this is something thawt is important in relationship it not pshycail but emtionally this could be more important

We all know what opinions are like so I'm going to save mine; however, I am going to share my story.

I was in the most serious relationship of my life. It was rocky, and I wasn't treated in the best manner. It got to the point that I pretty much gave up and walked away. After a month or two, she got me to sit down and talk. She told me all these things she had changed in her life. Everything looked so much better, and I decided to give her a second chance. She changed to the complete opposite. She was more than I could ever ask anyone to be. It was great. It was amazing. It was everything I always wanted.

The thing is earlier in all the mess, I had cybersex with a girl. I was a mess and handled it the wrong way. Looking back, I'm not sure how it happened the second time (which was after we got back together), but it did. Of course, she found out. Being that I had done it once before, it was the end. She had sobered up, started getting psychiatric help, changed the circle she ran in, stopped being selfish, and finally began to sacrifice. I threw all that away by a seemingly meaningless act. To me, it was impuslive (which now I seem to think maybe was my bipolar), wreckless, and inconsiderate. To her, it was a break of trust. I was totally wrapped up in temporary satisfaction that I lost the love of my life. Now she's getting married next month to another man.

Will I ever defy someone's trust like that again? No. That's all I can say. Hope my story helps.

It is cheating if it hurts the spouse. In your case it is cheating completey. What would he do if you talked to a male friend daily?

Talk is talk.

yes it is cheating

straight answer and to the point

yes that is cheating, i would kill my boy friend if he did that.

I think Steven has a point it isn't so much about your answer as your spouses answer because that is where your control lies. In your story, not theirs.