TSA does that to me a lot or the stews on the airplane.

I have anger issues...but it comes out in form of verbal stuff. Meh. When I drive, I can put together some pretty acidic sentences. I think the "C" word is the foulest of the words to use.

Big hug Pretty yes at times I can for sure.... I read quite a bit and that's often my go to position

Maybe some exercise would help... Take a nice walk.... journal how you're feeling or perhaps a nice warm bath

It's good that you're aware of it... It's important not to take it out on other people that's where relationships can break down

My stepfather said this to me way way many years ago and works for me

When I'm angry, more times than not the other person I'm angry with is oblivious to my feelings, going on about their merry way...So who does the anger hurt?

Lots of deep breathing. Distraction. Listen to my favorite music.

I call it the "angries" when it happens to me. Hugs.

I am new here but not new to anger or being irrational or both at the same time. Like kisses2016 said, breathing techniques and distraction can be used anywhere. For me, I get angry when I get hit on the head. My boyfriend taps me on the head when he feels like playing around and I instantly see red. I realize I want to start swinging but it usually doesn't make sense to do that. So, yes Prettyinink4, to answer your question about there are triggers for me too. Sometimes traffic is a trigger. Another tactic I use is asking myself why I am getting angry about _______? Just taking the time to ask then listen to my answer usually points to some other thing (PMS, low blood sugar, needing to go outside for some exercise, etc.). Hope that helps.

SWRA

Jennigerswe_ i call it raging. Like im not angry, i am raging. Thank u all sp much for your input. Do u find these things effective? The really really messed up part about it is....drumroll.. I literally teach anger management classes weekly. I dont like freak out or act crazy at work. I can contain it. It is when i get home that i can lash out and trip. I have learned what i can and cannot do. My husband amd i have made some guidelines like zero name calling, no slamming breaking oushing pulling of objects and do not take it out on the kids. We have spoke about different things but they are ineffective to me. What i really have to do is take time, a lot of it, to be by myself so i dont cause any harm eith my words or flailing arms. I have also learned not to keep any of my stuff in like in terms of venting. Venting is healthy.

Thank you, Sunwillriseagain. Idk i have an abnormal amount of triggers. Traffic is def one of them. Im glad i am usually driving by myself rather than with other. One question we ask in anger management is how does one feel after they get angry. Do you usually feel regret, ashamed, accomplished, relieved.

I say things in my car, when I'm hung up in traffic, that I would never say anywhere else. That's the only place where my anger kinda' gets the better of me.

Now that I think about it, there are times I don't take disappointment well. I hate getting my hopes up to have them shot down. In that way, I can relate quite a bit to what you say.

To me though, that's a somewhat rational reaction. Maybe not the situation, but the feeling of being let down. It's rational. The trick is shaking it off.

Mistermojo, i agree that that is the trick. And what a tricky trick that trick is. Im really working in it though. I just dont find many techniques to helpful. Its almsoy like i feel fake doing them like they are some kind of hoax. Idk

It might be a mixed state??….. You may want to discuss this with your doctor

I mean, it used to be really bad and i was sooo angry at everything. Then i got on meds and it has been so much better. Just that one day, i could not calm down for anything. I had been doing really good at one point. Usually when I am manic i am happy and giddy rather than agitated, irrate, and angry. I am usually like that when i am depressed. I got over it now but there is always things that are going to come up. I have just got to learn to not get so worked up.

For some of us mania is expressed in angry outbursts. It can also be the symptoms of a mixed state. It's worth having a conversation with your pdoc over it...

Getting calm is not something I can do when I'm really upset. Getting a grip on things is something I need to do every day and not just when it all becomes too much....How? I take a few moments to quiet down and meditate. (((hugs))) None of this is easy :)