Sorry for this. Nobody can screw up your life like family. But this isn't really about you, it's about them and what rotten people they are. Don't let it affect you or at least work at it.

At least you can say you are a good wife. That means it isn't destroying your self esteem completely. I am glad you realize that they are awful. I am really sorry. I agree don't let it get to you. I don't think they will ever change.

Great big hug of comfort for you sweetie... Family can suck for sure..sigh....
Have you ever wanted to have a calm sit me down and let your feelings be heard??... Perhaps there's some healing that could be had ??
I'm a big boundary person... I've been hurt too much in the past as well and I'm not up for it anymore..
I agree with tommy that this isn't about you at all....xo

Family dynamics are touchy sometimes.

I am soory that your In-Laws are acting this way.

I agree, try to think of it as their issue.

Take the high road, and be gracious to them, regardless of their behavior. It makes you the better person.
(hugs)

ahhh, they suck. talk about heartless and cold.

my mom-in-law used to sneak into my room and iron my boxer shorts and put them back in the dresser. it was super-weird, but i guess kinda' normal in the country i was living in.

Mojo has hot pants

My mother in law forgets my birthday on and off. And my father in law is a huge asshole, always makes comments about my weight.

There is really nothing to be done except to be grateful that your husband turned out to be a good guy in spite of it all!!! That's what I do! (It does stink, I totally know where you're coming from... ugh. Try not to let it get to you too much.)

You said you can't share this anywhere else.. why not? I think it would be good to talk to your husband about your feelings of being disrespected by his family. I wouldn't expect them to change, or for him to try to change them, but you shouldn't have to hide how you feel! Maybe your husband would be supportive of you!. I'd at least give him the chance.

Thank you everyone. My husband does understand. Last mother's day I was in tears all the way home and my husband was pissed- his dad apologized-not his mom. I have withdrawn recently and it just seems to give them more ammo. I just want to say thank you for your support. My husband is a wonderful man and I am very blessed. It is amazing that he is such a good person and not twisted like those that raised him. Oh and Richard...I thought about putting that pen back in his mom's stocking and just saying well it is just as close to your name as it is mine. And Mojo better watch how hot those pants get!

You are a better person than me for sure! You have put up with this for 15 years? Yeah that would fly like a fart in Church with me.

I can't believe that not one person calls them out on this??? idk- I would never be around them but as I said you are a much better person than me...

Sorry you are hurt and sorry they are just mean.

i dont think its about u either. sounds like they just dont think. im sure its not intentional but it doesn't stop it from hurtin. i agree ta put ur good energy inta ur lives

ironed boxers? thats a good one suncloud ! hotpants. ha

I read your rant to my husband and he agreed with me...it sounds so close to our daughter Storm's childhood, It's not even funny. Let me show you...your rant made me SOOOO angry!!!

My youngest went through her 1st 6 months of life without her father even acknowledging her presence! He had been cheating on me, and as many abusers do, he turned that around and accused me of what he was doing..

Stuff went on. We left (myself and my daughters) and my ex started feeding his parents the same bs he was trying to make everyone else believe.

Well, from that point on... my two girls (3 years 9 months between them.) were treated oh, so differently by the ex-in-laws. The eldest girl, Aurora, was everyone's favorite. At Christmas she got clothes, make-up, and a huge variety of other things Her sister got A shirt that was just plain gaudy, and several knick-knacks from the dollar store. Very uneven, but i raved about her stickers and little pad an pen and cars and she was young enough, she didn't notice anything, Storm's b-day is in June, Aurora's is September.

Aurora gets a phone call from dad and grandparents and is allowed to talk for an hour. They come to meet us to give eldest her gifts, which are many.

On Storm'd b-day? IF she got a phone call, which was incredibly rare, They would talk to her MAYBE 10 minutes!

As to what they've done : celebrated a stepbrother's b-day on her b-day...had cake, special dinner, sang happy birthday to the boy...not to here. They didn't even tell her HB-day. They never call her anymore, Presents, IF she got any, were just a bag full of cheap junk. She would come home and tell me these things and I always got so furious. But she would shrug or take her tiny treasures with her to play in her room. After them celebrating her brother's b-day on her b-day, she stayed with me for her B-day from then on. Her following birthday, we took them to the beach for the 1st time for an entire week.

Her sister said she never really cried about it...came home and told me and it was like she accepted it as the right treatment to her..,or, it all rolled off her back. Well...it didn't...She hid it inside.

To conclude this ridiculously long post, I've seen it. I understand it. But it just shows to all the type of people they really are.

Hmmm...I would have loved to have tried this with my ex's family!

On Mother's Day when you have to pass out all the gifts...have your husband get you something and slip it in with the others. When you call your own name or however it works, it'll shock the fool out of them!! Or not sure how the stockings work, but if you aren't going to have one there, stuff your own and take it with you. You could do all sorts of fun things. And maybe you wouldn't be so bogged down by them at Christmas. Get your husband in on it! Let the creative juices flow!

Banshee? Do those farts come with fart wings? Kinda like angel wings. Or when they die, do they go to fart hell for flying in church?

Thank you Raeyne04. It is sad that someone can relate so well. 9 times out of 10 I don't let it bother me but this time it just frankly pissed me off. I do always try and take the high road but sometimes it just feels better to walk away. If only they didn't live 15 minutes from us...maybe I can still stretch it out until the 4th of july until I am forced to interact with them. Another favorite thing...our anniversary is August 12 2000 and my sister in laws is August 9 2005. We always celebrate their anniversary. Never ours.

I could have written this post ATO. My husband and I spent about 15 years being ridiculed by his parents because we didn't have children. Then we decided together that we had enough. Every holiday, birthday, anniversary - ruined no more. Then they just hated us because we refused to be around them.

Every Christmas they would tell everyone not to swap gifts and that we would just have a get together and eat. Every Christmas, everyone got gifts, usually large sums of money in an envelope. Everyone but us - because we didn't have children.

One year I wrapped a beautiful nightgown in a beautiful package and put my name on it. While everyone was opening their gifts, I opened mine and jumped up and said, Look what nobody gave me!!! Back in those days, I would have a drink or four before I got there.

I hope you guys can decide you don't have to be hurt every time you see your in-laws. You can get in your car and leave at the first sign of cruelty. My husband and I had a sign - when I heaved a big sigh and said, "I've had enough of this shit!!", he knew it was time to leave.

I usually give him "the look" and he knows it's time to go. He just got back because they had more gifts for him. $200 gift card to best buy and a new ski jacket...of course they left the tags on $498. I'm happy for him(we couldn't buy thise things) but it's like overkill and nothing. Everyone got gifts from us and I hope that made them smile.