I believe you will find sometime. I weigh 350 lbs and was married to my wife for 38 years before she passed away.

Being fat is kind of a side effect of BP meds. It can be dealt with, if you work hard on it .
Being hairy...that is easy enough to get rid of hair .
Dirty ? Take a shower or bath ?
Sick...things can get better

Depression makes us see ourselves as less than we are, or capable of being .

hugs

I agree with DD. Our illness takes work, our bodies and mind both take work. You can do it and you will....

Beautiful women don't get laid!

I would also love to have sex, love - maybe - but sex for sure! ASAP would be fine with me : )

Intimacy and sex, wanting touch and love - romance a future? These are human longings! People feel as horrible as you and I, without depression or weight issues!

Love and happy relationships are work, work to find and work to keep - so my sweet friend, I understand your sick and tired of being sick and tired, that if you don't leave the house - you'll never meet him....

I'm 50 and starting to push my way out, do things, join things... just because you are alone right now - does not mean the rest of your life ((((BIG HUG))))

Everything in life changes, including our problems! You should check out the weight loss group for bipolar - I have to go post there I gained almost 15 pounds back, between chips and birthday - I just binged, and enjoyed - doing wrong.... Come join!

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/bipolar-weight-loss--wellbeing

We do not know what the future holds - but we can admit we feel doom and depression, hopeless - we can admit, since we all feel this - and have little in common - its text book mental illness - a chemical imbalance....

It's a war, today's battle - you posted! I'm glad your here! Hold on my sweet....

i haven't had sex sense January, and i've lost 15 lbs since March. it doesn't seem to be helping at all, though - i mean, i still haven't had sex.

i don't know, at least i can dive back into my anorexia. 20 lbs lost in 2 months is in my reach!




anyway, being sick in that way i know our self-image is hardly ever right - fat & dirty is probably not what others see, and i'm sure they would be surprised to hear that that's how you see yrself.

(((hugs)))

i could say i'm celibate, but that implies choice.

let's just say i'm in the `not gettin' any' club

don't give up before you start. it took me until 30 to meet the `one' i thought was actually the one.

DD IS RIGHT

Learn to make love to yourself and then your wish will come true. Sex is only one aspect of making love.

I try to keep it up...making love, that is, to myself and others in my life with every thought and ever deed during my waking hours.

Let's say I've had my ups and downs in all of this making love stuff but I'm not getting older...I'm getting better.

So does everyone, so you shall too. Love your passion(s).

Slim Harpo / Shake Your Hips

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9n6vNOHjWaA

Fdlstx thanks for that link I enjoyed it.

Yeah, Simon, thanks glad you liked it...kinda freaky eh?

you,are,young,beautiful,you,do,not,let,abuse,make,you
feel,dirty,you,are,not...stick,a,sign,on,your,bathroom,mirror,
telling,you,how,beautiful,you,are,when,you,see,,it,so,will,
others,and,you'll,be,beating,them,off,with,a,stick.you,go.girl

I know what it's like... I haven't had sex well I think for over a year, once I knew I was getting a divorce. I am just now "looking" at men again but nothing will happen because I know I don't want anyone right now (love yourself)

this I know about making love. what the body and hand and feet want..is not always what the eyes think they want. trust and laughter and love ....that's what are importtant. if you are so serious you can't laugh then you've missed the point.

my younger sister is still single and she has this attitude(and this is pretty brazen)-if you don't want me you're crazy!
and she's overweight.....but she works it. love her to death. and she laughs alot