Yes I do most of the time

The old saying is that there's someone for everyone, so believe that. Don't write yourself off without trying for a good run. I love living alone and being alone. (except for my autistic son that lives with me) I don't see why suicide enters into it since that would seriously impact any enjoyment that might come your way. But that's up to you to deal with. Sure, sometimes we feel sad and pathetic but the point is to change our point of view. There are some people like your Mom who give lousy advice. Ignore them. Yes, I have felt that way. Now I feel this way and so can you.

I can't seem to find one relationship that I have with a man that is a good healthy happy thing for me. I hate men. But I also want to be in love someday, but think it will never work out. I guess this is a boring thing to say to a bunch of BP people.... but I just have so much hate inside me all aimed at myself.... it's making me go crazy.

Therapy ?

Your self hate maybe depression turned inward...deal w the depression and maybe the hate will resolve it's self ?

Like Tommy said, a lot of us have felt this way before, but things do change ....and you are awfully young to totally write yourself off.

good luck

Okay hun, I am here to tell you, after a very abusive marriage, I thought that was all there was for me. But the "right" man did come along.

I have been in therapy for 13 yrs, and still deal with stuff, goes back to before my ex, but anyway.

Therapy is a good good idea, and don't give up on yourself. You are a good person and you can make it.

don't listen to your mom's lousy advice, I had to quit that as well.

I am here for you. We are here for you.

HUGS

Sorry you are feeling this way! I hope it you start to feel better soon!

Don't get mad at me, but this sounds very dramatic. Are you seeking attention?

Thank you everyone besides Rachyl. Rachyl this is the second time you have responded to one of my posts in a negative way. I don't know who you think you are but you need to back off and stop responding to my posts. Today I feel a little better, but last night this is exactly what I was feeling and I was scared so I came here for help. Again, don't ever respond to my posts again. I come here for support, not bullies with egos.

Grenadine, you know you are my hero!!!

Maybe what your mom meant is forget about men for a while. It's always been my experience that love is elusive when you are looking for it.

If you relax and let love find you, they will be knocking your door down. Just look how gorgeous you are!!

i thinki your being a little hard on your self and the approval of other is something that comes and goes i know in relationship i have if something goes wrong it seem to get to me more then the other people they come back like nothing happened and i feel the need to talk more about it so in being more involded with the things i think not matching with there i find myself having promblems most dont have but i dont think my life depends on other i think that maybe you could be a little more selfish an do just for you i think you could find people pretty easy if you look it just finding the right person and you know your tendences so you can do things to get around having the same things repeat them selfs that may not always work but if your aware and take the time to think it throught then you have a better chance

I've felt this way too. I think therapy would do wonders, too! ((hugs)).

Thank you and thank you. At the moment I can see that there is hope in not being alone. I think I feel this way because of a good night sleep and hearing from people like you. But at times like lady night which happen more often than I'd like, I get really hard on myself and I think I'm not good enough for anything or anyone, especially not myself. So at times like these I push myself down and don't want to succeed and make things worse for myself because I honestly feel hatred for myself. I think it's from shame from things i couldn't control and anger toward bad people that I internalize and blame myself for.

But I am in therapy! I started within the past year and we are starting to get places. It's crazy how my mind switches like that, it's like there's no budging my mindset, little control. Maybe I'll overcome that with my therapist.

Thank you to all of those who supported me here! It means a lot to me.

I meant to type last night and not lady night by the way!

i would suggest taking a step back at time when you feel this things and looking at it from more then one angle being able to think about the samething differnent ways helps to see that it is the way your emotions make you feel there is the basic action that you go throught and the the emotional reaction which is the hard part becouse it is something that everyone does but the emotion get in the way of process the thoughts clearly and it sounds like you need to have some people to talk to if you turning things inwould if you bottle it up it will get worse because there no out let it just bubbles up and lead to the bad dark places

Hugs, Eka