IS death really your ONLY option????

Death is always an option, but not the best one! When I was on SSD years a go I made out just fine by living in a run-down apartment. Those were the days! There are ways to achieve independence if that's what you want.

Yuck!!! What a miserable existence!!!!! But I don't think it's totally bleak and hopeless. Just because they treat you like a slave doesn't mean that you have to act like one. What will happen if he yells at you to do yet another job -- one that you don't think you should have to do -- and you calmly say 'no' and don't do it? And ignore him if he keeps yelling about it. If you find it impossible to say 'no' to being bullied around, get into some therapy where you can learn some coping skills.
Don't ask God to let you die!!! Ask Him to show you the way to a happy life!!!! Either way should be just as easy for Him to do!!!!
It really seems like there should be some solutions for a lot of your problems!!!! Keep looking for them!!!!! It's horrible to see you living this way!!! It shouldn't have to be!!!! (((((Hugs)))))

Call the 911 if neccessay and get led to an abusive shelter prograam. Tell them your plight and see whats available.

If nothing is available. Decide what your jobs will be around the house and do only those. Just polite say you wont aadd anything more to your load and dont toalk back to him when he yells and dont argue with him. If he threaaten s to hit you or does hit you call 911. He will be taken to jail and other services can be kicked in to help you.

I tried the low income housing thing once. It was a disaster because of the punk kid they gave me as caseworker. Anyway, I know the waiting list for the county I lived in is closed now. Because of the economy, I'm sure it's the same elsewhere. I will look for something like a cheap studio or basement type apt. to live if things get too bad.

I agree with what every one already said. Where there is a will there is a way. If you want to leave then take some time looking for ways to do it. I myself have been living on a 215$ a month income. I can't afford all my bills but considering how little that is you'd be surprised. There is rent assistance in your state I'm sure of it. Call them tell them you are in the process of getting a divorce or are separating. You can live independently of him I guarantee it. Also call around for low income lawyers or other services and ask what you can do to file a divorce.

If all else fails try couple counseling. Also find new ways to cope with it. If it were me I would simply not listen to him or serve him a thing. If he started bitching at me I would leave and go some where for a while. Eventually when he realizes you wont tolerate it any more he might change if not well go from there.

Jenn, I'm sorry this is happening to you.

" I'm always having to do something. nobody will change for me.'

You are exactly right, nobody will change for you. You have to change how you react to them. If this is NOT a physical abuse -- ignore the hell out of them. Evidently, your son is picking up on dad's behavior.

Put a book in front of your face, and tell them nobody is allowed to speak to you.

Watch a movie that you just can't look up from. If they talk, hold your hand up for silence. Or better, say, SHHHHH!!!!

Don't do the jobs. Let them come home to a dirty house, dirty laundry, and no supper a few times. Make yourself a sandwich.

Start doing some research on assertiveness training. Then practice. You are not a slave!!!! I don't know how old your son is, but I might just slap his mouth, if he is doing the same thing.

Having said all that, if this a case of physical abuse -- GET OUT!! Whatever you have to do.

Death might be an option now, but be sure to ask him if his life insurance is paid up.

This is not a way to live. Start going out with friends, or alone. Go shopping, to the library, out to lunch, visit family. I promise they won't find someone else that will do what you are doing.

I am praying for you. For strength to stand up for yourself, and for the belief that you deserve to be treated with respect.

Hey Jenn, sorry you are feeling this way. My two cents; the hatred only hurts you. The best revenge you could possibly have on the guy would be to go out, keep trying and figure out a way to have a rich and rewarding life.

There must be a way, some way you can turn things around. All the best.

I agree with everyone. Especially MagicKingdom. It's time to for you to take action. Not to see yourself as a victim!!! You cannot afford to take more abuse. Not only for yourself but for your child also. Offing yourself is not just an easy cop out but it would leave your son alone, in the hands of perhaps strangers. I know you don't want that. You are right that "nobody will change for me" because YOU must change for yourself as difficult as that is to do. I wish you all the best. Listen to those who are advising you and act accordingly. They care and want to help. You are not alone.

Sounds like others before me have given you some things to think about. As someone who's tried suicide twice, It's not at all what I imagined, the whole "after you don't die" period is not fun. Death is forever....Take the advice of the others change your reaction to your husband and son's actions or change your environment, don't let the moment you're going through now be your last moments on this earth. ((((HUGS)))) and positive vibes flowing your way.

I was just in a nightmare of a marriage.. lost everything I owned and it was a lot.. Im now on disability in a little basement apartment and I still have a lot of healing to do but I am content.. it was hard making the effort and Im still drained but Im not upset.. in fact Im peaceful.. it is worth it even if you can just get a room somewhere or if you have to go to a shelter for a bit...this is your life and it is worth living..x

I married an Italian girl, so I have to ask. Are you talking about your death or his?

You are right, they won't change unless they are FORCED to.

Its up to you to change yourself and stop responding to their orders and negativity.

Tell them that all the work you do stops right now unless they start being polite and respectful. Then follow through.

Unless they will up the ante and turn to violence.

Start working towards getting your own place. Save money. Look into escaping eventually and step by step work towards it.

Good luck!!

Some men and women don't ever deserve to be married nor are they marrying material. Leave the SOB or kick him out and sleep in another room. Let the police escort him out when he goes ballistic and that will help with your divorce.

I have always helped with my housework and am doing most of all of it right now that I am on disability. My wife doesn't treat me like a slave nor will I listen to some punk ass kid. Nor will I let my son treat his mother like a peasant.

Ahh the ol' catlady from Simpsons. Throw some cats at him. I love your avatar.