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Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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malibumark 05/13/2013

Sometimes my family relationships just decimate me.

I don't know if my extreme moodswing downward is a part of having bipolar

disorder. I was at my parents' house yesterday and a couple of incidents really took the wind out of me. I know that it's important to be strong and carry on in the face of things like this. It keeps coming back and just makes me feel bad to feel so judged and disliked. It's weird, I know family relationships aren't perfect but I need to just shake it off and get back to being productive. My family has been my safety for a long time but somehow a couple of them yesterday made me feel just like they couldn't stand me. Ah well. Keep calm and carry on. Trying to stay strong so I can survive. I guess we all have to do that to an extent. Sorry to complain - I don't know what anyone else does when crap like this goes on. I'd love to hear of some different perspectives and attitudes on turning a bad moment, positive.

deleted_user 05/13/2013

We are more sensitive to things I believe..

It unravels me when someone talks to me like I am stupid.. and yesterday someone did.. repeating a request beyond what was needed, but that's them not me. I am far from stupid.

best advice I can give is set your boundaries, stand your ground. try to see what is their problem, not yours.. and then shake it off as quickly as possible for your own sake. and the best way I know to shake it off is find something else to do.

SunCloudJD 05/13/2013

What do you mean by 'can't stand me'???

malibumark 05/13/2013

thanks IForgot. That makes sense. I'll try to keep that in mind.

SunCloud. I just felt like they couldn't tolerate me, for whatever reason. Others in the family treat me well, I tend to be a little quieter than the others and eager to help out with things. The two who treated me badly are much more dynamic but typically have little patience for others' idiosyncracies so I guess I shouldn't be surprised or derailed by it. I admire their strength and ability to get things done in their lives but I realize that I just can't let their reaction to get me down.

deleted_user 05/13/2013

lol I am trying to find out with this what exactly happened or what was said.

I am going to take a stab at it and believe that they were talking down to you because you are not as dynamic or go getting?

deleted_user 05/13/2013

if I am right.. my point is.. my boss is like this. always wanting me to be so much more hard working.. longer hours.. snide fekkin remarks and a crap load of passive aggression.. I cant wait to get away from my boss. I hate going to work. I am fine with me. this is my bosses issue not mine. and if my boss would focus more on their own issues instead of mine, boss would be a better person..but micromanaging and criticism are what make some people ok in their own screwed up minds. it hurts but its not my problem and actually boss gets the exact opposite reaction from me.. more distance.. less hours and less productivity.

I am sure what I just wrote was a bit more involved than what you are going thru.. my only point was to point out that people who are fixed on changing others and pointing out flaws are ridiculous, because if they spent half that time working on themselves, they would realize what shit they look like when they open their mouths and criticize someone else... just sayin..

irishwriter 05/13/2013

i,experience,the,same,dislike,from,my,siblings,have,had
to,curtail,contact,with,them.their,ignorance,is,their,issue,
not,mine...i,feel,for,you,it,hurts.

deleted_user 05/13/2013

when i encounter attitudes such as this, i usually just leave. once in a while i'll get irritated enough to just put it on them, and ask what their problem is, but yeah....mostly i just split.

you're such a nice guy that i couldn't imagine someone putting crap on you. sorry that happened mark. bummer.

malibumark 05/13/2013

thanks everyone. after reading your responses and taking some time to think about things. i think maybe for me i just have to put those relationships 'in a box' so to speak. not the whole family of course but the one's that i would hope would be better but aren't. i think you guys are right. it's about them and not me. i'm ok with myself to an extent. their insults which form a blockade may be more about what they can handle. I don't know. I feel a lot better than I did before and I want to thank you guys for your feedback. PEACE ALL!!! (hugs) :)

deleted_user 05/13/2013

peace back xo

GinaWonders 05/13/2013

So glad your feeling better!

I have a really crappy family, and I'm the grown up - LOL just because I'm crazy, doesn't mean I'm wrong : )

I count and laugh at insults, instead of think they aren't coming! Expect the worse with irony, and anything less is a success!!!
*Big Grin*

malibumark 05/13/2013

thanks IForgot, thanks Gina!

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