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Hypersexuality and Risky Behavior

heretic
heretic
I know I'm in trouble. I've been doing some really crazy things, having sex with strangers lately. This hypersexuality is part of a manic phase I guess, except that I don't feel manic in any other way. And it wouldn't be a problem if I didn't act on it.

But I had a great lover for a while then he broke it off about a month ago and since then I have been trying to replace him. I've been meeting guys from online, total strangers and having sex with them, hoping to find a replacement.

This is really dangerous behavior and I know it - but its become a sick addiction, I've been having 3-4 strangers a week, and most of them weren't all that fun. I want to stop but when I try it seems that boredom consumes me and I am drawn to searching for the next guy. This is seriously hard to talk about but I know I'm in trouble and I shouldn't be doing this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Did you see my post from yesterday in the general discussion?

I know Just what you mean. I am currently attempting to "come clean" with my tdoc and hope I can learn something that will help me Not do this when I am manic.

Age will eventually help, lol - but Geez. ( Can you imagine going on a sexual spree when we're 80?!)

I know it's bipolar, but I believe it's also something Else. We'll just have to let each other know what we find out! :/
heretic
heretic
I really don't know if I can talk about this to my pdoc. I don't really feel manic at all - its just this hyperswexuality that I know was triggered by my partner leaving. I just need to get a hold of myself and mellow out, stop doing crazy stuff and try and occupy myself eith outher things. And right now that is really hard, but I have to do it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your not alone, I did this a few years back and am getting the urges to do it again. I am afraid that I will get murdered by a stranger yet my urge to have that intamacy is so much stronger.For me the est thing is not to have an on line accout to meet people because I don't meet people out side of the internet. I wish you strength and courage to keep going on the straight path. Good luck
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry you are engaging in such risky behavior. Are you sure that you cannot try talking to your tdoc? Maybe he/she will have some advice on how to deal with this change with your ex.

**HUGS**
deleted_user
deleted_user
all i can say is be careful. i also struggle with hypersexuality when i am manic, and I have even experienced some pretty dire consequences as a result. though you may not be able to control your feelings, just stay safe!
heretic
heretic
Yeah, I am not being safe at all and that is what is scaring me. I have had some scary guys come to my house, And I still can't seem to stop. I really miss the lover I had and don't think I can replace him, but still I try. It may just be a phase that will run its course, But I am trying to fight becoming depressed over my loss, and I am fighting the depression by searching constantly for a replacement. I really don't know what to do, how to make myself feel content. I really don't like what I am doing but can't seem to stop it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Have you tried counseling or sex addiction therapy ? I have the opposite problem. It could be my med's but it helps me a lot and i don't want to go through stress and sickness of another med.

I wish i could help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can't help with your underlying problem, but my two cents/PSA (and I hope you're already doing this and don't take it as an insult):

Use condoms. Stash condoms EVERYWHERE. In your purse, your pocket, your nightstand, your kitchen drawer, your glove box, your desk drawer, everywhere everywhere everywhere. And replace them immediately when you use them.

I know this doesn't really address your main concern, but it's what I know to minimize collateral damage. I don't have problems with hypersexuality, but I have been sexually impulsive, and nothing will teach you respect and love for condoms like waiting six months for your follow-up HIV antibody screen.

Good luck,
Caroline
deleted_user
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Hi all, This might be a really naive, stupid piece of advice, but here goes. When in a manic phase last year, post break-up, I struggled with similar tendencies, meeting lots of people, drinking a lot, being intimate with people in ways that I knew put me at risk. I phased myself out of it gradually, but one thing that helped was having sexy chats online (lol!). It helped me explore some of those thoughts and impulses with total strangers and talk about unsafe things without the physical safety risks. Again, sorry if this is a silly thing to say! Hopefully we can at least get a laugh out of how funny I am ;)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Its ok.It will pass. I did the same for 3 years till i got everything out of my system,had to do it and yeah its scary but exciting too, i understand,hey ALL LIFE IS RISK,dont be too hard on yourself, you can do what you like.xx
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats a tough one I struggle in brief spirts with this. I think the internet idea is good as long as you don't meet up. I did try and talk with my therapist about this and she didn't grasp the extent of the problem. Like if you would ordinarily pleasure yourself it would go away. I just don't go out if I know I am this way. I always have condoms just in case. I am rapid cycling so usually is over within a couple of weeks. The Lorezepam and ambien when it brings me down will help this. I also do not drink as I know this might make things worse. Provigil is about like viagra for me also.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've struggled with hypersexuality since I was 17. It isn't easy to control, either.
Be SAFE- that's the most important thing-and be honest with your doctor. I know it's awkward, but they are only here to help.

There was a point in time I would refer to myself as a "serial-f**ker" because I was just doing it all the time.

My meds have calmed me down-A LOT. (Maybe a little too much lol).
Just have faith.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't suppose you can just say no to meeting these strangers and bringing them to your house?

I'm worried about you now. I don't want them to hurt you or for you to get a nasty disease.

I understand the loneliness and seeking human comfort. You know that this is not going to bring you what you need.

I'm sad your lover is no longer with you. I hope someone wonderful comes into your life real soon.

Please take care of yourself heretic and watch out for your health and safety.