As a rule I've been told that it's kinda a third date revelation you don't want to run them off at the very beginning give them a chance to know you a little and by then they can better decide what they want to do but unfortunately there are pple who want to have nothing to do with someone like us and I say screw them so don't wait so long that you are emotionally invested that it's going to hurt you.

I agree with #1

I am single also. I haven't dated in over 3 yrs. Been divorced 6 almost 7 yrs. I have put alot of thought into this subject though. I think I would wait and see if the relationship might become long term and give them time to know you so that when you do decide to tell them they will have gotten time to know you without the stigma. That way they can say wow I would've never known! There is a quote I like that says "I am the same person I was before I told YOU I was mentally ill" The only problem I had when I was dating this guy was the issue of hiding my med taking. GOOD LUCK and HAVE FUN!

You don't. I'd wait a few months til you got to know each other better.

I agree with Lumpkin and Dobiedots. It's a really personal issue that I don't think you need to say anything about unless it gets more serious. Takes the pressure off too.

Yep, agreeing with the waiting idea.

Yeah I figured I would wait to. I want the guy to see that I am stable and that I have a personality.

I personally decided to give up dating..too complicated. However when I did date, I would say that waiting is best. Just keep things slow so you don't get too head over heels and wait until the person sees you for who you are before you reveal to them you have a mental illness. Then it is easier for them to see that you are ok and can function. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.....just my opinion.

I have never met a person busting and telling me, while shaking my hand.... I'm Diabetic and take insulin, and have to be careful.. Never heard anyone else, wanting it out there quick - their health and meds..

but we do have some issues, and my rule of thumb - if I don't know you well enough to discuss diarrhea and hemorrhoids - you don't need to know my medical information : )

Health is a personal issue and I agree with everyone who says....wait!
Get to know the person you might not want a second date....if you are still together in a few months and the intimacy is really going to trust that's a good time to bring it up and easy does it!

Thank you everyone for your imput.

If you wait it out for awhile, your date will see your stability. Then when you go to tell the person they will see your committed to managing the illness. This may help the other person to see your great strength and feel even closer to you.

I made a decision many years ago to never tell the man I loved that something mentally was gravely wrong with me. I wasn't diagnosed then but knew I was suffering. I did that to protect him and myself from serious rejection. He came back around a few years later, when I was out of control and not managing. I was able to hide it since he lived far away and only visited one weekend. But I wouldn't let myself get too close and I lost him. I lost him because I couldn't tell him, because I knew I couldn't fake it for long. Life has come full circle now and I know him again...the first thing I did was to tell him the truth. He accepted me anyways. But now that I have had a year of knowing him again, still at a distance, I realize that when I pushed him away all those years ago..he went on without me. So now even though he forgives me and accepts me he seems to be sitting on the fence or somewhat leary about fully trusting me again.

I would tell your date at some point. Lasting relationships must be built on integrity and honesty in my opinion.

Need to know basis and you'll know when something so personal should be revealed.

In the mean time enjoy the dance of getting to know someone I say!!