no...one parent. No, don't leave responsibility for my own illness at their door. x

Only mothers. Both biomom and stepmother. Not father.

Dad had a thing for crazy biotches with big hooters.

My mother has BPD and my late father had bipolar and alcoholism. I know that I have faulty genes and not an enriching childhood, but I have to take responsibility for my demons.

I do that slowly, step by step, everyday.

I'm adopted (was at a very young age), but both my birthparents had mental illness from what I found out later in life. I don't hold them directly responsible for the way things turned out; that itself would be crazy and unfair I think. There was no way they could have known how my life would turn out, and my birthmom did the best she could to give me a good life. Actually, my birthfather apparently doesn't know I exist... since he was real abusive.

genes happen :)

xx

You got it!

both parents. I don't want to go into the "extreme" behaviors of my mother on here, as I don't feel comfortable...but she has a mental illness.

My father is a drug addict. He is currently on methadone
maintenance and has been for over 10 years, now.

I do blame my mother for my C-PTSD. Her actions are directly responsible for my PTSD.

I don't blame my bipolar on my parents, though.

My mom is fine but my dad's moods are all over the place. He abuses alcohol so I believe he's either depressed or maybe a beeper. Probably just depressed but won't get help. Alcohol is his medication. Unfortunately. Mental illness runs all through his family and there is some mental illness on my mom's side. It makes me sad for my dad. I asked him once if he wanted to live the rest of his life feeling so angry and depressed. He claimed he wasn't depressed but I know he is. That is no way to live. I know it and everyone on here knows it.

i had a pretty good childhood for the most part. great holidays and decent family. mom was broke and i didnt have the best life with her young, but dads was awesome.

had some abuse and trauma young.

dad is bp. mom has panic.

i would say i blame the genes, who knows if i would have ended up bp with a perfect upbringing and what is a perfect upbringing anyway?

i blamed my dad more for being a self centered jerk for a while, that affected me, only because i wanted a more thoughtful father, but his disorder has worsened and now hes touch and go. i have had to learn to accept him the way he is.

moms panic has gotten much better over the years, much better :)

since my dx i seem to be much more tolerant of my family and a little more open to who they are. we are talented, funny freggin people.

Mom says she almost(?) got diagnosed with border line...

Dad definitely has anger issues...

Don't hold them accountable for much aside from signing papers that they disagreed with, resulting in the repeat of first grade for me, which was pointless, and on BS reasons...

Both of my parents had alcoholic parents. My dad is a dry drunk, he was physically abused by his parents, then sent to Vietnam. My mom was mentally abused by her mom and then my dad. She is afraid to do anything without his ok. My dad suffers from depression and my mom anxiety. Neither thinks there is anything wrong. My sister and brother both have issues because of our upbringing I'm the lucky ones to get the genes too.

I don't blame anyone but my f-n genes. I do wonder how come, in a family of 4 children, why did I get sick and no one else did? It seems quite unfair, but better Bipolar than something else. My father doesn't like to discuss it. He also denies the mental illness in his family. JEEZ, why can't people accept mental illness as a part of life? They accept diabetes, high blood pressure. Why not this?

Mother undx'd and obviously unmedicated BP1 and alcholic

Father severe PTSD from being POW and alcholic

Do I blame them? No I do believe most of my mental bullshit was genetic and they did the best they could with the information they had given the era with in which I was born and raised.

(To all) How has your relationship been with your parents due to these difficult behaviours?

My mom has GAD and self-centeredness, my father anger issues and self -centeredness. I held them responsible for years, and it made me very bitter.

So I forgave them, and it has worked wonders for me. They still have their issues, but I can support and pray for them. No one is perfect, least of all me.