Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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ReginaPhalange 02/09/2011

My daughter was born sleeping 13 years ago today, now while I manage most of the time to get through life and not think too much about what could have been etc, days like today overcome me with grief.

How do you deal with grief without it becoming a major trigger?

deleted_user 02/09/2011

I think everybody deals with it differently, and I'm very sorry for your loss. Sometimes different things can set it off for me out of the blue but the birthday and the death day are always especially hard for me. Time has made it easier but it never really goes away i'm sending you special hugs today. Maybe you could write her a special letter telling her how much you miss her sometimes putting your feelings into words helps.

SunCloudJD 02/09/2011

I think grief is always a major trigger... grief therapy is a good thing though.. I went through a little many years ago and it helped.. I to am very sorry for your loss... I also think there are special days that bring it back to us bipolar or not...I believe though when people leave this world they do go back to God.. for me faith helps a lot.. big hug and a blessing for you..x

deleted_user 02/09/2011

Allowing time for grieving can be helpful. Writing down how you feel and giving yourself permission to be still and think of the sadness and allow yourself to cry if that is what you need. Maybe writing a letter to your daughter telling her how you feel about how sad you are she wasn't able to live her life with you would help you get it out of your system.

deleted_user 02/09/2011

I am very sorry for your loss. Grief is also a major trigger for me. I have told you my story about my miscarriage. My due date was 1/31 and I am still reeling. On the 31st, we did light a candle for Kristina and that helped.

Please, be gentle with yourself. I'm doing all sorts of self soothing activities. I'm taking hot baths, having sex, rubbing my hands with lotion and generally anything that makes me feel better. This includes food which has caused some problems with Weight Watchers, but my therapist says it's OK. I've also been doing a lot of distracting activities like crocheting and watching funny movies.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I really hope you make it through without this triggering an episode. I don't know if my suggestions help or hurt. If they hurt, I'm very sorry.

deleted_user 02/09/2011

RITKat has some good ideas.

Here are some sites that might help.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm

http://depression.about.com/od/grief/Grief_and_Loss.htm

deleted_user 02/09/2011

I second the comment about the grief therapy.

I too am very sorry for your loss. Time does not heal all wounds. ((((HUGS))))

deleted_user 02/09/2011

Im very sorry for your loss i cannot not advise still lerning but thougth i would leave you a big gental hug minnie

ReginaPhalange 02/10/2011

Thank you for your comments, I have tried grief therapy in the past but always ended up much worse than when I started. I will check out the websites, thanks shining soul x

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