My husband and I have been married almost 28 years.  I'm just going to get to my question.  Last night I realized that whenever he is attracted to someone, he says something negative to throw me off.  Last night I mentioned the last time that we saw his exwife, when I said she looked good.  Has aged well and has had some work done.  He said she has been rode hard and put up wet.  When I called him on it tonight, he was just silent for a bit, then tried to change subject.  Conversation went back to her.  He talks with his 33 year old daughter, then let it slip little things from their conversations.  Nothing upsetting, but the whole package tonight.  Then I made a comment when I die, you are going after her, aren't you?  He started laughing with his face in the bed.  The bed shook.  He laughed harder than I have seen in years!!!  Like a guilty boy!!!  Or as I said later a dirty old man!  Everytime I mentioned, he looked guilty and giggled.  Like for the next hour.  Of course I was the problem!!!  Tried to deflect.  She has been promiscuous after a long marriage with second husband.  My husband and she dated for 6 years and his family loved her.  I think he has wanted to see her have problems as a result of her leaving him for another man.  Sort of like she got what she deserved.  Not relevant.  He said he laughed because he would get VD.  Too much giggling for that.  He acted like I am crazy.  I am bipolar but...and have another chronic disease. Stable but may lead to my demise.  I feel like he was guilty and entertained the thoughts...and was busted.  He was not laughing at me for suggesting that as a possibility.  That I am sure of.  That would have been ok.  Not the case.

Am I overreacting?  Sure doesn't feel like it.  He would never be honest about this, if...Ready to move out of our bedroom and just become roommates.  Of course we have other issues, but need feedback.   I don't have a lot of friends...