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You know how much it hurts to not be able to claim my hard work as my pychk. If I say its my pychk, I am the devil. I wish It meant something that I spend 40 hrs a week at a job I dislike. But it doesn't. My value is nothing. I have no right or control.
( the back story, I open a saving acct with my own money and he thinks it was stupid. I am a banker, so I know what I am doing. I wanted the fund divide, so I would not have easy access to spend the money, we need for Vacation)
( the back story, I open a saving acct with my own money and he thinks it was stupid. I am a banker, so I know what I am doing. I wanted the fund divide, so I would not have easy access to spend the money, we need for Vacation)
I'm sorry you're feeling run over. Your message was a little cryptic so I hope I got the gist of it correctly. You opened a savings account with $$ from your job (that you hate) and he (hubby/boyfriend??) didn't approve? Is that it?
You do and should have rights to and control of your money. My SIL turned her paycheck over to my brother for 35 years. She could never buy anything without his approval and she's complained bitterly for 35 years. When the stock market dipped he decided she had to work several more years before she could retire -- and they're sitting on a wad.
Stay strong and stick to your guns. :)
thank you for your encouragement, and my heart goes out to your SIL, that is pushing it there with deciding she had to work several more years before retiring. I do what something in this life for myself, and if I work for it. I am going to get it.
I understand my husbands point of view but its not mine, so I am going to have money taken right out of my check and put into an account with the bank I work for. Plus I get a bonus rate with them on saving, even though in this market, the way interest rates are its still pennies.
borderline controlling almost.
He feels so useless and out of control over everything else, with being the stay at home parent. He feels, he needs to management everything with money ( though in the past I did a fine job at managing it before I had an episode and he took over all of it ) I can make sound decisions again and I just want my old freedom back to make decisions and without having at least some input on what I do with my paychk just plain hurts.
but my husband does sever from depression and lack of self-worth and he explain, its one thing, he feels useful in.
we do have a co-dependent relationship, where I am dependent on him a little too much and he is borderline controlling. Its a work in progress.
After much discussion ( we are talking things through now, instead of one of use blowing up, bonus there) he said, its not right for now, but next month when we get 3 pychks from my work, I can go ahead and transfer what I would like in the savings acct, I opened)
I recall when we finely gained the right to have an acct in our name but we could not write a check nor use our monie w/o our fathers having to sign our checks for only men had legal control of woman own bank acct's.
I assume that u have not been legal declaired incompentant & that your male mate was not granted control of your finances & medical control.
Welcome to benifits of woman hard work that went thur hell for us.
Simply open a bank acct. have your py check be deposited as direct deposit..
U can also set upp an acct that will deduct a certain percentage from -oh lets say - acct that u have direct deposit in, into a christmas fund acct..
U can have your py check auto deposited into checking acct.
have bank to auto w/draw a certain percentage & put that monie into saveings acct. the bank ( my bank ) can also auto deduct a percentage from saveing acct & deposited it into a christmas savings acct. w/o u haveing to do so in person. w/o you havveing hands on your py check/monie.
I assume that banks & bank employees & wal street/brokers... have more knowledge about money n finaces etc... than your mate.
Did courts order that u have an appointed person to handle your monie !
Has P-Dr recommended that u have court appt person to handle your monie !
I wouldn't give up earn intress on my monie so that some knockle draging red neck jerk can do so w my money.
I suggest ( if u opt ) to obtain a savings acct w a debit card.at time that u set up 2 or more of said mention opts.
Debit card limit being what u have in your checking acct.
so if u set up the 2 seprate saveings acct . u will have non cash - checking acct cash card.
Everything is electronic. cashless sociaity.
Only time I actually have cash is when I half to pay toll booths.
I do all my banking/finacance/shopping... on my apple phone service.
I don't use my debit card nor cash to pay for my cappi coffee. I have credit. all I do is swip my phone over store gadget. & my order is electronic pd for. No cash, no hassles w cards, no delays.
If your knockle draging cave man badgers u - won't shut up. there are writen laws that will/can take care of his mouth/behavior against u. espically if your under P-Dr care.
Yep many yrs ago,I was the 1st woman in 3 states that dared to ware jeans in public. I didn't work on farm.
So Dear get w the times & kick the crap out of the control freak.
U can do it.
X's