A divorce generally takes care of that situation! Nobody likes a condescending control freak!

I agree with tommy. I wasted 27 yrs being married to a rager and drunk and will always regret it. You don't deserve to be treated that way, no one does.

yeah,show,him,the,door,sounds,like,you,can,suppport,yourself,
you,definitely,don't,need,the,abuse,and,lack,of,respect.tell,him,to,
'shape,up,or,ship,out'..

communication & honesty are the keys, if you dont have those, really what do you have....

I wish you the best
HUGS
dee

Sounds like he's got more issues that you do! ARGH!!

I totally agree with Tommy.....divorce would take care of most of the problem. Sorry you're having to go through what you are but listen to the signals....sounds like he is trying to just keep you down and triggered. Screw taking the bus too...I'd be in one of those cars and telling him to bite it!!!

Hope you find some peace very soon.....I know we can all yell divorce to you but there is alot to that.....though not impossible!!!

I don't understand why you make the car payment but are not allowed to drive? or was that a error? I don't understand why you do not just take the keys and not let him have access? or better yet stop making the damn payment if you can't drive it.

I dont understand how replacing your pdoc apts with tdoc apts makes anymore time for your son in his brain?

I don't understand why there is any question he would rather have you sick and dependent then on meds and independent.

I don't understand why it looks to me like he uses your sone as a wepon against you and you seem to let him.

I don't understand why this man seems to be abusive big time but you stay?

I dont understand if he truely is this abusive with all the help these days and choices why you don't leave?

I dont understand why a bright , intelligent, apearing to be able to be self sufficent and self supporting woman stays with some ass when so many nice guys are out there waiting for such qualities in a mate.

I hope it all works out for you remember you are valuable.

shit - that's a long time to go on new meds without seeing your doctor. :(

Won't comment on what I think about your husband, guess he must have some redeeming qualities if you're not poisoning his coffee slowly each day.

Get in the car and DRIVE, DRIVE far far away from your controlling husband that is triggering you! Go see your Pdoc, get your meds get your life under control, take your son and run like hell!

Ah... my ex husband was very passive aggressive and liked to keep me sick so he would have control. You would probably be better without him, but if you would feel better, you might want to try counseling with him first if he would go? Maybe knowing your relationship is in danger without it he would go.

And if you are paying for the car you should damn well be able to drive it!!!

I have to agree with everyone else...
Have you ever had a sit down with him and told him how you feel about what's going on in your life and your relationship..

It sounds toxic and it doesn't sound like you get much out of the relationship other then hurt and this can't be helping your son either... He must observe his father's behaviour...
You deserve to be treated with respect....Do you want to be in this situation 5 years from now??
It seems to me like you have some serious things to contemplate..
I'm sorry you're going through this it must be awful
Great big hug for you..x

Identify your needs and separate them from what your husband "thinks" you should be doing or not doing. My therapist would tell me to "detach" from his toxicity and do what is best for you. He can only guilt trip you if you let him. I agree with Dee that communication is so important. If it isn't a two way relationship than maybe other considerations are in order? I wish you the best and hope he can come to the realization that your disorder is real and needs attention. xo

The only person who is going to take care of you is you. Sounds like you are working hard on doing just that but your husband wants to keep you sick and needy.

I watched my best friend of over 30 years spend 20 years with a man just like your husband. He finally got physically abusive at the end. They are now getting a divorce. She is learning to be her own person again. She tried marriage counseling multiple times til the marriage counselor told her she needed to divorce him.

You didn't say how old your son is unless I missed it? He does need your time but not every waking moment especially if he has his own social life. Just make sure you give him time each day even if it's just to sit down for a few minutes and ask him how his day was, how he's feeling and if he needs to talk about anything.

Think about what you want out of your life. Then you can make a plan. You deserve to be happy.

I thought of divorce about half way through reading your story.


Still thinking divorce upon finishing. Please consider that I have never been divorced & have been married for almost 25 years. I am not once to jump to that & I don't think anyone is.


You can't change him. He will always be like this most likely....and his attitude is hurting your health & ability to stay that way.


A visit to a lawyer might give you some peace of mind and a fresh start.

Abuser you have. he is the classic abuser. oh ya he has quite afew of thier traits. your w him because WHY you didn't have childhood that you wanted so your trying to capture r relive a small pc of it in your/through abuser.
If a woman has a child they have it made. the law is on her side and she gets state benifits n assistance. why put up w anyone. you don't half to. let go of your daddy hand.
Ya he will rant n rave, just get court protection order, n with social worker to obtain a person for you both to have same place to drop off n pick up child w/o ever seeing ea other. if he has something to say he is to do so by way of his atty. his atty w pass his yadda onto your atty. that's how that works. Now if nut is just stupit enough to go to your jib r call your place of employment. simple show your boss the protection order, ya that Lic business will handle his butt through the law/courts at no cost to you.
yes change your e mail adress,n ph no. and obtain " assurance " ph service for your child.Assurance offers free phone and 250 minutes free. They also offer unlimit calls for $30.mo, that way the abuser can't tell Judge that your preventing communication w his/your child.Don't obtain this servce n ph through/at stores. Sears wants 470. for less costly assurance cell phone plus out rages cost of minutes...
You are teaching your child to be like you n your husband n your relationship w your abuser vice versa( man n woman rank/place...)
we all do. Children minds are like computers that take in everything. I do mean everything.
The mist dangous time for any woman is when she is in process getting rid of an abuser.
Your abuser obtained his medical PhD from where! he has same lic as your P-Dr n pharmist, right,lol, ya, he is just a bully.
you know the feel good about yourself feeling when your at work, will yes you can feel that way 24/7.
Oh by the way being that he has 2 cars, will ya the Judge will make sure that you get 1 of 2 undamaged cars to use. during devioce proceeding you will be awarding 1 of 2 cars, however your atty can get enough $ for you up ft for you to extend your edu n get a ccar to get to school n work n to meet your child needs. Again the legal system is in your hands n your atty to be will have him by his short hairs. I love American, n some states more than others.

Oh 1 more thing don't believe anything that he says. don't believe him if he stoops lower n says that no one loves you n no man will ever want you. he is full of abuser common lies/shit. like that is actually going to make us want to be with them.They seem to tjink that such crap will make they look good in our eyes n we will want to stay w them,lol

Abuse comes in many forms. stop abuseing yourself.