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So my sister calls me and tells me that shes's going on this cruise with her family but theirs a problem. Her MIL paid for too many deposits some family members cancels on her in-laws side and her MIL won't get her moneey back. NOt really making an issue of it, just making general conversation. I say, well what if Hubby and I go?..She get's really excited and says, WILL YOU???? all happy and stuff. So it turns out that He can't go but he's willing to send me and I can meet them at the ship and board with them and stuff.
Then she says...Ummm, no
what
you can't go if he ain't going
why not
I'm not going to be responsible for you if something happens and you need someone or if you get manic and have to stay on the ship and miss out with being with my family. you can't come.
but
no buts, this ain't just a cold you have. I'm sorry but that's life.
then she hung up.
I got so upset that I called my other sister who works for a psych office and told her and she says "everybody gets one chance to act stupid. this was hers" then she told me she's take me somewhere cool if I would look up places to go and get back with her on prices and stuff for spring.
Then she says...Ummm, no
what
you can't go if he ain't going
why not
I'm not going to be responsible for you if something happens and you need someone or if you get manic and have to stay on the ship and miss out with being with my family. you can't come.
but
no buts, this ain't just a cold you have. I'm sorry but that's life.
then she hung up.
I got so upset that I called my other sister who works for a psych office and told her and she says "everybody gets one chance to act stupid. this was hers" then she told me she's take me somewhere cool if I would look up places to go and get back with her on prices and stuff for spring.
It's a bit painful to hear that you aren't welcome because she doesn't want to risk having her good time ruined by you becoming ill and needing constant attention.
She's right about one thing -- 'that's life'.
That's how we are going to be treated sometimes.
Sad enough that she feels this way about it, but she could have said 'no' in a much less insulting way, too.
Gee, your other sister sounds great!!!!
Yeah!! Focus on her and other people who are kind and who treat you in a decent manner!!!!
Pick somewhere really fun to go, and start planning it all out, even if it ISN'T going to happen until Spring!!!!
Sorry you were treated so poorly. That was pretty cold of your sister.
((((((((((Hugs))))))))))
It's a stretch, but I might can understand your sister's thinking. But, did she have to be so bitchy about it??
I'm sorry she hurt your feelings.
Your first sister is very rude.
Your second sister is extremely caring.
Just bec I am nasty I would write the first sister off. At Christmas time and her birthday I would send her a card that says "I don't feel you have the right feelings to accept my feelings for birthdays/Christmas so i am not sending you a gift nor good wishes). And just leave it at that. If she makes a scene. Just look the other way and explain that you are bipolar and having an episode. Stay out of her house, don't see her kids, don't answer her in conversation, just leave herout ofyour life. You don't need people like her in your life.
hurts
Try to love her. To forgive does not mean to forget.
I talked to the other sister..didn't bring up the new vacation..she's ort of dealing with a hurricane(she lives in FT Lauderdale). I was worried about her. her house is leaking...under the floor. wow.
but he and her family are okay..they said it was just alot of rain, no big deal. course they were on the east side of it.
beggs
First off ..... glad your FL sister is ok during the hurricane. She sounds very insightful and compassionate.
Does the first sister always speak so bluntly or did that come out of the blue? One thing that caught my attention was that the cruise wasn't booked by your sister but her MIL. While the cancellations were a dilemma, they were the MIL's dilemma. Your sister didn't outright invite you, you sorta invited yourself as a way to solve the deposit problem. Maybe her MIL got all over her. Regardless, your first sister was tactless and hurtful. She certainly has used up her once shot at being stupid.
I hope your FL sister and family staff safe through the hurricane and that you're able to enjoy some time together.
we gonna get some of that storm tonight. only thing we can do is wait around til we do.
Try to be diplomatic with the first sister. Just be careful and keep your distance. If you have to apologize, then do but then retreat and don't allow the toxicity of the toxic sister to get to you.
I have a brother that I barely correspond with for similar reasons.
Stay with the ones who understand. Always, my dear....always.
Love and hugs,
Achala