Yeah, my mom lost 100 lbs a year or so ago and is on me like stink on a monkey right now. And yes, gained weight from meds but also from poor eating habits and lack of exercise. Trying to trade off doing low-fat and low-carb eating plans right now and walking a lot. Have lost 16 lbs. I finally just respectfully told my mom that I didn't want to hear it anymore. I think parents at any age have influence on our self-esteem, but we also have to be adults and set up boundaries. Good luck. xx

once I realized my mom couldn't say anything nice, then it was on me to quit letting "criticizer" hurt me! MOST the time, I think its funny!

Sorry, it does suck - but work on disconnecting those buttons - you can't change her, but you can quit letting it hurt ((((HUGS))))

You are the same beautiful person no matter what you weigh. Ask your mother to see you for who you are.

Yes, my mom systematically starved my father to death, and is 20 lbs underweight because she doesn't "want to be fat!" She is 82. And I gain weight from meds, and she is just at me. Talk about an Eating Disorder - her not me.

Once she told me I was getting fat in my late 20's. I had the perfect comeback - I told her I was pregnant. It was worth the look. And it was true!

After that, I haven't let it hurt me. She is the one with the problem, not me! And yes to the boundaries if you can.

I'm not sure how often you see your mom however I would put up boundaries.. It isn't helping you at all!!.. It's hurting you... There's nothing helpful about bullying it's just painful..
I would ask her to stop and that weight is not something you want to discuss with her anymore...
As Gina wrote you can't change her but you can change you..
If she brings it up I would either excuse myself ..leave if you can or say I have to go and hang up.. She'll get the message after a bit..
Sorry you're hurting sweetie..x

Since starting meds in 2008 to now I have went from 220 to a high of 330lbs, due to a currently unknown illness I am currently down to 300. The sad thing is that I know as soon as the Dr (or soon to be team of Drs..) find out what is wrong with me I'm going to be able to start eating more then a can of soup and clear liquids.

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I absolutely believe that critical comments from a parent can impact our self-esteem. My mom has struggled with her weight her entire life and she never misses an opportunity to dish on someone's weight.

I think she secretly resents that I took after my dad (tall and skinny). Whatever. Over the years I've made it a point to counter her snarky weight comments with positive attributes of the person she's targeting. Mom never changes but I feel better countering her criticisms.

Tell your mom to keep her opinions about your body to herself.

lots of thoughtful advice from other posters.

That sounds difficult. Is your mom concerned because of health implications? That I can understand. However criticising a person doesn't seem a helpful strategy; counterproductive even.

Does your mom understand about your medications? Particular antipsychotics can certainly cause weight gain.

Another possibility is that it's your mom's ..boundaries, almost. Like, is your mom hung up because how it reflects on her? That's pretty narcissistic..that kind of self centred thinking..in my opinion x

btw- it is possible to get your weight in control on medication, for sure.

Are you on antipsychotics? Been tested for blood glucose response?

Natural thing to take to help body regulate glucose levels (antipsychotics mess with this) is chromium fyi. There are also medications doctors can prescribe for extreme weight gain caused by antipsychotics.

If it is antipsychotics then low carb definitely helps weight stabilise (as system can't deal with carbs as efficiently on certain meds)

I'm not saying it's necessary to lose weight to please your mom or whoever, I don't mean that. Just thought I'd point out options out there.

People dont understand the weight gain from meds. My tdoc says that doctors arent even sure of how it works!!!

My mother use to say to just get up and leave the room if someone said something that wasnt very nice. If you live with your mom I would just always have a good book in my room and go there when she starts complaining.

Earphones? Make like Andy Warhol at a dinner party in that old doco footage & just tune people (your momster) out :)

doctors know these meds can and do cause catastrophic weight gain though: the associated development of diabetes in patients taking these drugs is through the roof. Not to mention heart disease, stroke & premature death- not counting those who suicide. It's true x

You can get your weight back down through exercise and dietary changes. Your mom should have a little more love for you and realise what a prick she is being by hurting you so much.
Make a point of asking her why she chooses to hurt you this way instead of providing support for you ? Ask her to prove her worth as a mother by swapping hurtful words and criticisms for loving support instead.
Patience , and you will overcome. Parents have their own sets of failures swimming in their own heads and sometimes you need to point out that it may be their own pride and insecurity talking, rather than dealing with what needs to be done.
Try not to swear at her but that may help too.

Beat her to the punch. By round three of any obsessive nag, I pretty have the words of choice memorized, so I will begin parroting the chosen nag-words as soon as soon as I see the nag. "Well, hello dear. Yes, I am still smoking. No, I haven't gotten the housekeeping to your sterile standards. No, I haven't started letting My Man think for me yet. And how are you, my dear mother-in-law?"

The HUGE danger of this approach is that once the words start coming out of your own mouth, they can begin their corrosive action from the inside out, but not the nags in my life generally quit after the first couple reminders that I heard them the first thousand times.