sometimes I have thoughts about other men even though i have a good relationship. For me, I have some sexual abuse history so I think that is where is comes from There is an organization called SLAA sex love addiction anonymous to get support from. Sounds a little like love addiction, but I am not sure.

lts called hypersexuality ask your pdoc about it mine has stopped thanks to meds yours might need a tweek but if you are med free read up about it so you can see the signs and when you feel like leaving or cheating on your b/f tell yourself its the bp making you feel that way and its a liar.

Try not to act on the feelings buy adult toys watch porn but try not to cross that cheating line your b/f may never forgive you and its more for you to forgive of yourself. And don't be so hard on yourself its not you its you in an altered state keep a mood book it helps me see my emotional patterns.

Well we all have certain feelings, it the nature of being bipolar. the important thing is that you didn't cheat. i'm not trying to sound mean, but did you have these feelings before you got married. Or did it just start. Sometimes we as people we need to step back and ask ourselves what we really need in life. Maybe these r apart of you being bipolar or may your needs have changed. We all go through strange things. As long as you don't act on them its ok.

firstly, if all you're doing is thinking about cheating, stop beating yourself up. almost everyone has inappropriate thoughts about people who aren't their current partners, it doesn't make you a bad person, just human with a healthy sex drive.

as for the strength and random nature of your urges, your bp might be a factor. alot of times during manias your sex drive can kick into hyper gear (god knows mine does on occassion). It's not your fault when this happens, it's just part of the bp package.

None of this makes you a bad person or a bad wife. Just ignore the temptation to contact old lovers n try to settle your urges another way. maybe you could explore the world of sex toys or just jump on hubby when your feeling frisky?

You have these urges because humans are not meant to be with one person. We are meant to have sex and procreate with as many people as we can. Some of us make the choice to be with one person.

Everyone thinks and has these feelings. It is natural. The question is whether or not you act on them and most likely ruin your marriage. There are a lot of beautiful people out there that are good in bed who we all want to do.

What about opening up sexually? Maybe you would like another partner in bed or something else to help your sex life with your husband. Toys are fun.

Is he fulfilling your needs or has he turned into that husband role where he doesnt put a spitshine on it anymore and does not fulfill your sexual needs like he used to?

I know I stopped for a while and I lost her and I wont again. Never.
Sex is one of the big three. The biggest for most.

you're not the first beeper to experience hypersexuality. Feelings are not cheating, actions are!

i too think about it sometimes. my highschool sweetheart looked me up and i met with him at this park near me. this is about 4yrs ago, and when i saw him, i couldnt do it, it just didnt feel rite and i didnt go thru with it. even when he kissed me i got kinda grossed out and couldnt kiss him back

i was very hypersexual fueled by alcohol and drug addiction when i was younger i dont get those strong urges now due to sobriety but i sometimes feel a little of that about certain men but i can control it now. seeing my old flame made me realize that i love mike too much to do anything like that. its all about self control and therapy.

I sort of know how you feel. I just had my first online relationship which blew up in my fast & I''m married to a wonderful husband. I feel awful but I knew in reality & logistically nothing would ever be able to come from it. He lives in France & I live in USA.
My husband has a problem/addiction w/porn but I don't have a problem with it. I know as humans we're all sexually curious & also have fantasies.
Sorry, I'm ramblings but no, you're not the only one. I'm also trying to struggle w/what is "cheating". is online cheating?
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