Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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KindheartCrazymind
KindheartCrazymind

Does anyone else on here have problems making and keeping friends?


I thought maybe if my friends also had what I had that they would understansd me and id understand them. Sounds reasonable? I made friendship with someone with BP recently,however, we both just triggered off of eachother and ended up lashing out back and forth until the friendship was in flames. Now I isolate. Talking on here is pretty unbelievable that im able to do this

tommymott
tommymott
I have what I'd say are casual/superficial friends. It's hard to talk to most people about serious matters. It is easier on a website such as DS so that's why I'm here. Most people don't "get it". Like you say, we trigger each other and get into a mess. We've got to go with what works!
KindheartCrazymind
KindheartCrazymind
Thanks Tommy! I wish i new this before I blew threw all my friends and family.
arfie
arfie
I often quip that more of me is not a good thing. I, too, find that casual friendship with other beepers has a way of ending in messy and often ridiculous drama. Emphasis on the "casual." Friends I have gotten to know through peer support groups are a different story. We seem to start the relationship with healthier boundaries and understandings.
KindheartCrazymind
KindheartCrazymind
Thats great news! I already feel like a romantic telationship may be off the table this life which has left me feeling so damaged. Friends would be great with boundries!
mlr0853
mlr0853
A good book: https://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=bipolar+partner&tag=mh0b-20&index=aps&hvadid=1695748116&hvqmt=p&hvbmt=bp&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_40b5i34jan_p

Along with medications DBT saved me from myself, others in how to deal effectively with my emotions...specifically anger and wanting to control...former co-dependent behaviors created A Lot of problems in my relationships...as Arfie pointed out 'boundaries' are Huge part of healthy relationships/friends/romantic.
Curtis90
Curtis90
i have a hard time making friends.. i am really awkward, cause i find it hard to relate to most people :( and its hard for me to start a conversation
MoobbusT
MoobbusT
People are far busier now with their own lives than ever before... at least thats the way it seems to me. Maybe they are blowing me off but I think it's just that they have their own problems, many financial.
Sunshinegirl0228
Sunshinegirl0228
Yes I have ALWAYS had trouble making and keeping friends. I still have my sisters though which is a huge comfort. As long as you have "someone" you can call your friend I think you are golden
renard79
renard79
I make friends only when I'm really comfortable. That's when I can be myself. But being bipolar is really difficult and I don't really know who to talk to!
TC40
TC40
I have a rough time. I decide to isolate, which I know isn't healthy.
MayB
MayB
Me too,

Friendship is a verb really when you have a friend you need to check in ( which I'm not good at)..,.

I agree with Arfie support group friends are pretty helpful because of the the boundary concept...I need to get more active for sure....in the friend department.
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