well, is it lying or is it sensible? Would ruminating about all those things distract you from living in the moment & making the best of it, for instance? If that makes sense,..maybe I misunderstand you.

Good question....but i know i do it.

Today I am ruminating about all the times I compromised myself that led me to how I feel today (maybe) Oh I guess I really don't know. My mind is rambling on so fast its a feeling I can't really put into words.

hmmm...there are several questions here that I think are separate from actually lying to yourself.

I don't lie about my needs or dreams. Those are real. I feel those and don't necessarily know if I have it in me to lie to myself about those things. For me, they feel more instinctual.

I do put on a face in front of other people because it's just easier that way, sometimes. I don't like bringing other people down. I tend to only hide my emotions - like if I'm in physical pain or if I'm depressed.

Other than that - I dunno, I've never really lied to myself in that manner. I think I've experienced unintentional denial.

Too, i don't know if I've understood your question fully.

I guess what I'm saying is have you ever compromised yourself to a point where you feel like your life is a lie. Let's say your Hubby forgets your Bday. It really hurts but you pretend its no big deal. I think that's what I'm trying to say. It's like Martyr Syndrome but with regrets.

Humm yes id have to say i do, it...not 'that' it, ok i do 'that' too. LOL

hmmm, no. I'm pretty vocal when it comes to stuff like that. I think, in the end, you have to say to yourself - you're not doing anyone any favors.

Because in the end - it always comes out.and usually in destructive ways. Take care of yourself, okay? (hugs)

I used to lie to myself all the time but I was miserable. Acceptance, full acceptance, realization, and finding blessings in who I am, better suits me now. I feel free to be.......xo

Oh, and if my hubby forgets my birthday, his butt is gonna know how I feel. I may not scream at him or berate him, but I communicate very well about it.

My husband and I had this discussion this morning while I was getting ready for work. He had some odd dream about me lying.

I said well it is what I have to do sometimes to make everyone happy. He told me that if I lie it isn't making anyone happy. I just looked at him and said what you don't know won't hurt you.

I lit to my self everyday and convince my self I am okay with my life..when in fact I am not.

I know dam well when I am lying to self so I dont do it and very rare do I lie to others about life either but on occassion yeah I will fake it for the good of others. . .

I lie to myself all the time to get myself through each day.