I'm a pretty shy person most of the time....but I can have my bitchy moments...but don't we all? It's only if I'm pushed to my limit will the bitchy side of me come out.

I'm not really sure how I get when pushed to my limits, it happens rarely. I try to excuse myself from the situation before things get too bad to handle, thus giving myself a chance to calm down and go back with a clearer head.

I'll give an example of one of my latest "bitchy" moments: My sisters friend is dating a guy who behaves like a child (in my opinion). He rarely goes to work, not because he physically can't, but because he doesn't feel like it. He expects his girlfriend to support him, provide food and entertainment, clean up after him, even on occasion dress him. Meanwhile he often ridicules her and behaves like a full-blown jerk. His excuse is that he is severely depressed. He has not once tried to seek treatment or help with this depression.

The girlfriend is bitterly unhappy in the relationship, but refuses to end it. She makes excuses for his behavior, but often seeks sympathy from others because she chooses to stay with him.

I've know the two of them for several years and not once has this pattern of behavior changed. My response is this: the boyfriend needs to grow the fuck up and stop acting like the world owes him something. Yes, life may have handed him some raw deals, but it's been like that for everyone. Stop whining about how unhappy you are when you haven't done a single thing to change it, because when all is said and done, everyone is responsible for their own happiness.

As for the girlfriend, stop expecting sympathy for a bad situation that you yourself continue to stay in. When ever someone offers good advice, which she's constantly asking for, she ignores it, or gets defensive and hostile. At this point I refuse to discuss her relationship with her. I understand that bad relationships can take a powerful hold on a person, but there's only so many times I can listen before I feel like shaking the daylights out of her.

My sister thinks I'm too harsh, but I believe that everyone is responsible for the choices they make. Many things are outside of our control, but we do have a say in how we behave. It's normal to make mistakes and to be unhappy with life at times, but waiting for someone to step in and make everything all better in stupid and pointless. I won't get involved anymore, because I feel like it's a waste of energy.

So, bitchy or harshly truthful? Keep in mind that I've come to this opinion after years of watching this unending song and dance...

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In the past I wore my bitchiness like a badge. Hey, I was just telling it like it is.

Now I realize it's not my job to be the keeper of the truth. People usually already know their truth and they don't need me slamming it home for them.

It's a work in progress.

Nah, I'm too fragile to be a bitch. I've encountered really catty bitchy people and I don't choose to hang out with those people. Some people have had experiences that make then uncomfortable around aggression and abrasiveness and that would include me.

I'm learning assertiveness right now. You don't have to be bitchy to be assertive.

Oh and I'm totally no nonsense too. Bitchiness and no-nonsense are totally different in my opinion.

No not me.... I try and treat others how I want to be treated... The bitchy me left with my youth and hormones....lol....xo

I'm not bitchy since I haven't had a period in 13 yrs.! There is always going to be people in your life that have to grow or not in there own sweet time. It takes some of us a lot longer than the rest of us!

I have been that way but even more so in the past. I am also more bitchy when I don't have enough sleep..triggering overwhelming exaggerated emotions.

It seems that I must be adjusting some to this bipolar baseline and just accepting. I have noticed that my compassion level has gone up in the last year...people used to trigger me more. Now 50% of the times when I used to get annoyed..other thoughts go thru my mind that are positive and more merciful. I sure hope this continues.

I truly think we go thru stages. They aren't the fastest for us all. But things do change. I believe that can bring hope.

I always think "What has this person been thru to get to where they are now?" None of us know what others went thru mostly. If the person is really obnoxious I will leave also or make up some reason to get off the phone.

I feel there is no reason to make some other person's day more yukky. I try to see if I can say the good thing first and then wrap things up Like I said before and remove myelf.

Hmmm..... your responses have been interesting..

Perhaps using the term bitchy wasn't the right choice? I don't know. Everyone has a different take on what that word means, which is the case with most words.

When I get bitchy it's after I've exhausted all other ways of responding nicely to a bad situation. Basically I get fed up with watching people hurt themselves or others, and I lose my patience. I will note that I don't just walk around running my mouth, but if I've gotten to this point and someone asks my opinion I'll tell them the truth as I see it. Often it's not what they want to hear and they get mad or offended.

I don't like hurting peoples feelings, but I won't lie either. I don't know if that makes me bitchy or not. Maybe I should just start staring at people blankly and saying "No comment" when they ask what I think...

I don't aren't most women considered bitches if they assert themselves?

I years there is a difference between stating the truth and being mean-spirited.....

I strive not to be impolite but I don't always succeed!

Sounds like I may have been one to take the word to mean what I think it means Bree...just plain mean and spiteful. After reflecting on your post #13 and Mayona's that follows it is quite obvious that what you meant to say was "pissed off" or something along those lines.

There's nothing wrong with being angry. Anger, properly harnessed and directed, can be a great motivator towards success in many aspects of life. Just try to leave the innocent out of the kill zone...in other words either take the emotion and make it drive you...or drive it through and home to the person who is pissing you off.

Stuffing this explosive emotion is not the way to deal with it...unless it's your boss and or the hand that feeds you. In such cases you must have a creative release, like sports, crafts...or sex.

Personally I prefer a woman more prone to anger than bitchiness...as long as she's not pissed at me it's a win win situation.

Oh...and I probably don't have to say this but it has been said that women are becoming more violent in their behaviour...I'm sure that's just a generalization as much as it is about men...but violence can only lead to more of the same...do restrain yourself. };-)>

~peace out...in~

I am usually very patient. But when the same crap happens over and over I tend to lose my filter. Especially at work. I am damn good at my job and don't suffer stupidity very gracefully. Maybe laziness is a replacement for stupidity but I don't have time to do my job and 3 other peoples. So yes I'm sure there are a few people out there who think I'm a bitch. But guess what? I do not like my patient's having to be the ones that suffer.

Away from work I am gracious but again people that have no common sense send me off the deep end. My friend always reminds me. "There lies Christ". I can sometimes take a step back and put the mouth filter back on but sometimes it's all I can do not ask them..."how were you not eaten by wolves as a small child?.

Damn...I guess I am a bitch. Oh well. I gotta be me!