It does get better, but I think your mother needs to educate herself on your illness or else she is going to be toxic for your health. Her sentiments are not productive at all.

Once you are on the right meds, dosing amounts, yes..it gets better. ((hugs))

Don't listen to your mother; it CAN get better! I'm living proof of that. I thought I was hopeless too. Fortunately I had a friend that kept me just this side of suicidal, but I got damn close. These days, I'm safely unmedicated and able to function pretty damn well.

My own experience is that yes, it gets better. But I've also accepted that with all the chasing after meds would I be happy if what I'm experiencing in a fairly stable situation is the best it's going to be, and I have to say yes to that. But coming during or right after a mood extreme, yes, it's going to get better!

Better is on the horizon

Hang in there Ivy.....maybe your mom is afraid herself and just doesnt know how to express it?

Things do and will get better. Just be patient and give it time......xo

I agree with everyone else. Seems that your Mum needs to do a bit more reading up on the subject or get counselling herself from a professional about the illness. You can be a good as you want to be darlin. We know you can.

It does get better and it can get much better, in proportion to the effort you are willing to put into it.

Have they taught you any cognitive behavioral or dialectical behavioral therapy skills? There are a few good books and workbooks out there. I have one I've been working through called Thoughts and Feelings, Change Your Mood, Change Your Life. CBT and DBT skills have helped me more than any of the drugs I've tried.

Also, find a support group. This internet one is good, but try to find one in the real world. A lot of what you're going through normal people just won't understand. Sorry if that's discouraging, but the up side of it is that there are probably support groups in your area where you can get better support than what you're getting from your mom. I can't believe she told you that it won't ever get better!

You can take classes later, in a better frame of mind. Right now focus on getting yourself functioning better; you can do it!

i am going to be positive and tell you that it WILL get better:) Just throw negative advise in the garbage, you don't need it, especially at a time like this.

Yes to everything everyone said. My Mum has passed now but I realise now that even when she was well meaning she could say terribly destructive things to me - exactly like what your Mum said to you. For many women, our Mum is the closest woman we'll have in our lives so of course we take deeply to heart the things they say. But they can be wrong. And your Mum is wrong.

There is a great deal of scope for improvement in the mental health of Bipolar patients. If you'd suggested that to me a few years ago, I'd have spat at you - I WAS so very sick and there seemed no prospect of any forward progress. But with patience and a dogged determination to find the best psychiatrist and psychologist I could I HAVE made many many gains. We have to be terriby patient about medication - it can take a long time to get the right meds mix - but it is worth the patience and the struggle.

You may be able to suggest to your Mum that she could educate herself about your illness and the prospects of recovery but one thing I have learned is that we can't make other people do what we want - even if it is the right thing.

But if you seek therapy, you can learn about assertiveness and boundaries. Learning those skills will be one of the best lifelone gifts you can get for yourself. This will help you with your relationship with your Mum and everyone else you come across in your life.

it gets better, we live with an illness that plays with our mental and emotional state the one guarantee we have is change even when we feel differently, when high we feel it will last forever its the same when sexually hyper and when depressed but it never does stay.

Give your body time to heal and rest it needs it that's why you're so sleepy and you're emotionally vulnerable so negatives will hurt and hurt deeply it doesn't mean they are true just that they hurt so try to push the pain away its not true.

You will get through this but its baby steps so be patient but you will feel much better.

I have plenty of faith and hope that WE all get better. I don't know or understand "WHY" sometimes MOMS say the darnest things. Take this time to educate her, so in the future she will not hurt you with stupid remarks. How can we expect our loved ones to understand us, when we can't even understand OURSELFS!!!! We don't need understanding, we need plenty of LOVE and tons of SUPPORT. Here for you when you need me.

It definitely can get better. Your mother obviously doesn't understand BP very well, but everyone can learn if they are willing to read or listen. People say things when they are stressed that can be hurtful or come across wrong. It sounds like she is concerned about you and just doesn't understand how BP works. If you read up on BP it might help you feel better and maybe you could share the information with your mother as well. You can definitely feel better, it sounds like you still have some depression going on but it will improve with meds, therapy, and time. -Crystal