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Anger Management

heretic
heretic
I have a lot of anger that has built up over the decades. I can feel the pain of things that were done to me years ago as if it just happened today. Often times I am even more angry now than I was then because I can see it with the clarity of hindsight. And it eats at me that there is nothing I can do about any of it.

I know about forgiveness - that it's something you do to stop the pain, it's not a gift you are giving anyone else. I understand the rationale behind forgiveness, but my mind seems rooted in reality. Things happened and they were not ok. I can't fool myself or pretend otherwise.

So now I live with many many years worth of painful memories and am unable to deal with the anger they bring... I feel every bit of the pain and humiliation that I ever experienced, the hideous sense of helplessness, The knowledge of what others got away with. God, it burns.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It might seems as though they got away with something, but they were living in their own hell all along.
heretic
heretic
That is the most comforting thought I've read so far BethanyCecilia - thank you
deleted_user
deleted_user
That is indeed a comforting thought. How awful their lives must have been for them to be so horrible to you. You have managed to escape and cut them out of your life, but they are stuck with themselves and their nastiness.

Them being so nasty surely means that they attract nasty people who hurt them in return. They are stuck in the hell of their own making whilst you are free.
Nmmiller17
Nmmiller17
I feel very similar to you. Recently like in the last few years I realized I have a lot of anger and resentment. I grew up without parents and my brothers were adopted and I was not. At the time and as a kid I was happy go lucky. But as I got older i started to resent and hate certain things in my life at that moment in time. Only recently I discovered it stemmed from my childhood which is what I would hear a lot. It takes years and years to build all that up but it doesn't solve or take away anything. It's easier to love then hate. I know easier said then done. I also learned that anger is really just projections. I used to get so mad when people would get away w something or were silver spoon fed, bc I have had to work my butt off and jump through hoops in my life. But I also know it made me the person I am today. I still work everyday and have to tell myself positive affirmations. Meditation and tai chi really help also.i still have my days but I'm trying to reprogram my thinking and work on not being so angry. I struggle hard core w alcohol and that would being my anger to a whole new level. But hang in there and next time u get angry or feel it coming on take a deep breath and really ask yourself why you are so mad... what r u feeling or wanting that u think your lacking then you will be able to nurture yourself instead of focusing on the anger. Hope this helps :)
Nmmiller17
Nmmiller17
*bring
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Welcome Nm...... This post is from 2011 so I will close it now but I'm glad that you're here.... Big hug......x
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