Husband made you do it...most likely.

Tell him everything. He is in your corner, and doesn't have to say a thing, even if you were to tell him you killed someone. He needs to know it all, so no surprises come up in court, and he can figure out the best way to defend you. ((( hugs )))

Thank you all for your support and advice. My lawyer rescheduled on me last minute, so I won't see him until tomorrow.

My children did not witness anything but hearing his yelling and swearing. They did not see me hit him at any time, did not see me get arrested. I would never do that in front of them.

I had not ever hit anyone in my life before this. I do have a written document from my "victim" that there is no history of violence and that I was in the middle of an episode. He has never hit me.

But he is gone now...for the most part. Still some loose ends to tie up. There was quite a bit of drama on his part over some cat food. Ridiculous. I'll be showing the text messages to my lawyer.

Thanks again!

Hanna -
I'm glad this guy will be completely out of your life. He was really no good for you, so don't ever be having any feelings of regret. Don't you dare!

As far as the attorney goes, I agree with the others who say that you have to be completely honest with him and tell him everything. He can't help you if he doesn't know the whole story.

I'm really sorry this whole thing escalated to the place that it went to....it must have been a horrific experience. My thoughts are with you and your kids as you get through this whole court matter.....I hope it's over soon, and that everything turns out okay for you.

I agree with everyone else about telling your lawyer everything that happened,why it happened and what brought the escalation to a level with hands being laid upon someone.Was there any drinking involved ,if so bring it out into the open.It's your responsibility as a parent to tell the whole and complete truth. As far as him telling you to be nice for his support,the hell with him as long as you are honest he has nothing to blackmail you with.More than likely you will be referred to family services and after they determine you have gotten the therapy you need they will drop the charges.Family relations is not the enemy,they are there to help you get things back on track. Accept their help and be thankful to get it,maybe this was a good thing to have happen so you get away from a bad relationship and work on parenting skills. I don't mean to critique your parenting skills but it seems you are making this traumatic event for your children into a minor event. This has hurt your children and they should be the focus of this post and instead they seem to have been lost in the shuffle. Now for the good news,you can remedy this whole situation,just take responsibility and get you and your children into therapy right away. I genuinely feel bad for you and your children and want you all to come out of this having learned from it and go on to lead happy and healthy lives. Good luck and keep your chin up,there are going to be a lot of folks offering help,take the help and move on with your life......................Peace and good will, Brian