Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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Chuggernaught 02/17/2008

Do you have a pattern that makes you curious about what it is you do wrong? Like you don't get what it is but it happens anyway? Every time I care for some one I manage to push them to the point of hating me..

deleted_user 02/17/2008

stop being a dick.

j/k

Chuggernaught 02/17/2008

lol

deleted_user 02/17/2008

I think that sometimes we create what we fear the most.IE: You inadvertantly push away those you really want close.I do it alot.:( Can't seem to help it sometimes.

Tizzy 02/17/2008

What you are doing wrong.... You are letting your fear make your decisions. Choose to follow something else and you will find your relationship improve.

deleted_user 02/17/2008

I gotta think about this one.

In your case, I think it's FEAR and I think if were to meet someone it would be the same for me. I'd push 'em away. Hence, why I'm still single. I push 'em all away.......... but that's by choice and it's not a pattern.

I gotta think of a pattern to answer your question. I don't know that I have patterns cuz' I don't ever complete anything I do anyway. LOL!

Chuggernaught 02/17/2008

well, for what ever reason, I am super intense and when I call some one "friend" it's for life, but when I get to that point I crank up the intensity to a point of sacring them (Since they are usually women) and when they shut down it pushes me into over drive and I unintentionally try to pry them back open, then eventually I say something that offends them and they say fuckoff.

deleted_user 02/17/2008

the whole push them away b/f they do it to me...

Chuggernaught 02/17/2008

I don't push away by pushing.. I push away by pulling them to me..

Tizzy 02/17/2008

Yeah pulling is as bad as pushing... What works best is when you are just being. It took me a long time but I'm very codependent and I did a lot of pushing and pulling. Finding enough in myself finally allowed my husband to be who he is and not pulling him or pushing him to be something I need him to be...

deleted_user 02/18/2008

I nit-pick every detail of the lives of people I love, especialy the life of my wife before we got married. I pick away till I wonder why she/they can stand to be around me. It might be because I can't stand to be around myself much.

deleted_user 02/18/2008

maybe you're just being a dick and labeling it "intense" as an excuse to keep doing it.

deleted_user 02/18/2008

I think someone just got called out.

deleted_user 02/18/2008

I'm good at pushing guys away, and just letting friendships fade.

deleted_user 02/18/2008

Honestly, I should change that to scaring gyus away. lol

deleted_user 02/18/2008

i have the same problem and i have no idea what it is, if it's something i do or if it's them. it's an argument that my brain has with itself all the time :S

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