Well Put Chugg. Good to see you around

I think that while I'm going to such an extreme as to change careers to help people, almost everyone on here want's to try an help as much as they do want the help. This is what makes her words so pertinent.

hi chugs,

great post and glad to see you back again. good to see you're ok!

Nice to see you.

when you get further down your career path you will be working on keeping your personal self from your healer self.

My wife when she told people what she did was always asked "are you analysing me know?" You will find it a relief to turn off that persona believe me. Or you will burn yourself out, you will see all the obvious mistakes people around you are making, over and over again. You just can't save the world, only those that ask for it..and for your own sanity you will need to do it within the limits that psychiatrists, psychologists or psychotherapists tend to set.

Remember, psychotherapists have "supervisors", these people don't supervise in the normal sense but act as an ear/mentor to discuss cases, how the therapist is feeling about dealing with a case that has significance for them etc etc. They look after themselves. You have to do the same.

But the most important thing is the "healer spirit" or calling. You may be familiar with Jung's "wounded healer" concept too.

I can definitely identify with the "not ready yet" part. I'm dealing with anger from my divorce and although my AA sponsor and therapist have advised me to "let it go" I'm not ready yet. I know I need to and I know I will but I have to stew a bit first. Isn't it strange that I know what I have to do but I must experience certain emotions first.

some people are not in deniel of what their issues are. some people also just need an ear to listen to rather then them being anylized by friends. that's why some of us have shrinks to talk to. glad u found someone u can mentor. but also remember a friends advice is different than that of a patient. don't judge your friends for their actions in life as they are going to live it any way they want. as u enter school u will learn the ins and outs of keeping your career life and personal life in different files. kinda like super man. if u ever watched smallville for instance, a person can live a double life. even though that is a fantasy show, it's the same thing. i have learned to that what happens at work should stay there, and my personal life stays in my home. the two are not or does not need to conflict with eachother. i hope all the best for u in all your future endevors. daisy