First, let me just say ((((((HUGS))))))) - you're going to Need them. :/

There are certain illnesses that we hear of, like Parkinson's or ALS, that are just Insidious in the way they drag out like a bad suspense movie, gradually stealing control away from us in Every area of life itself, never letting us know "when" the next "loss of control" is coming....we see that diseases of that nature challenge even the Strongest people.

But No One lets go of control easily, in ANY illness; cancer is no exception. We don't Want to die! Even more, we don't Want to suffer pain, or have to witness our Loved ones suffer pain as they Watch us get sicker...we want Health, we want Control, and we want it Every Time. For Every Person.

...Of Course we do; no matter how long someone I loved was sick, or How dire the condition, I Never wanted them to actually Die. That meant Loss, and it is Human to want to Keep everyone! Where would they go? What will happen to them after this life? We don't Know, we Panic, and it's Natural.

Okay - enough deep stuff. You Love your Dad, your Mom is freaking out, it's Heavy, it's Emotional, and it Won't Go Away, even if you hide under a blanket going lalalalalala.

Go ahead - imagine a Worst Case Scenario. It' Healthy, dammit. It doesn't mean it's going to Happen; the new treatment may make him Better, and you all would get blessed with Extra Time. And I hope so!

But in my opinion, facing down your giants is what brings you to a place of Control, at least somewhat....Let Go of your Dad, emotionally. Put his life in the hands of the Powers-That-Be, and KNOW that you may lose him. Cry; beat the pillow and then go over there and Spend Time with him, while you Have it.

Hold on to your Mom, let her know she won't be Alone if the worst happens; admit that you have ZERO control over tomorrow, but "Today" you can be with both your parents here, and love them, and be loved BY them.

And come here and have breakdowns. A LOT, because talking about things is pretty darned cathartic sometimes. And it's Okay.

Love and Hugs -

the DoorMAwss

I don't think you are being selfish or should you feel guilty for the way your feeling. This is a really tough thing that you have to go through dealing with ur Dad's illness and I don't think there's any rules on how a good daughter should react in this situation.

Be yourself, and just keep coping the best way that you can right now. I'm truly sorry that ur going through this.

(((big hugs)))

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{{{HUGS}}}

I have no special thoughts for you on how to deal with this.

I am watching my own mother die , and it is something we can not fully prepare ourselves for .

All I can say, if you have family, rely on their support !
If you feel yourself slipping...GET HELP from your Pdoc or therapist.

If you have any kind of faith...use it and pray

My deepest regrets you are going through this

hugs

I'm sorry you are going through this. ((((hugs))))
Would it help to schedule an extra therapy session as you go through this very difficult time?
sending lots of love...

Huge hug of comfort for you... I'm so sorry you're going through this... I don't know that there is a good way.... We somehow do get through the things we have no choice in....It hurts though a great deal
Reach out for extra support Id
It was sure hard on me when I lost my parents.. It broke my heart
I think it's as hard on the loved ones as it is on the sick family member just in a different way... Huge hug of comfort and a blessing for you and your family...xo

((((HUGS))))

I'm so sorry that you're going through this right now - losing a lived one is NEVER easy and feelings of guilt and anger are part if the package. Just be you - whether you keep it together or not - he's your father - he'll understand. Wishing you comfort and love during this difficult time.

I'm sorry you and your family is going through this terrible time of grief. Hang in there and remember if you can't change it you have to accept it. DBT talk. Big hugs, hang in there.