I'm so sorry he's mean to you. He sounds like a terrible boyfriend. Big hugs.

Do you have family, Wings?

Is they're any way you can get away from him before it gets worse?

I hope that it is that you've just had a row or something like that and this is a vent in which case big fat hugs and things will look better in the morning!

if however, this is an ongoing situation of 'meanness' the you could try to either sit him down and talk about it or try to have a little chat with yourself about how wonderful you are and how you do not need to live with a mean man in your life. I know it is hard. I have been in relationships with many mean ones but sometimes it worth talking to them and you may find out that it is a communication issue that is at the core. you can only do what you are able to do at any given time. I wish you luck with it and hope you have a peaceful christmas. and big fat hugs to you again!

I ditto what irish said! Was it just one incident? Or is he like that all the time? NOT THAT IT MAKES A BIT OF DIFFERENCE -- HE STILL HURT YOU!

Is communication an option? Sounds like somewhere to start if you care about his relationship. How's it going now?

Wings, You really don't owe anyone an explanation for "why are still with him". I hope you know that your reasons are your own. You are telling us you are hurt and alone and I just want you to know I hear you. I care about you and I'm really sorry you are hurting.

I feel alone a lot of the time, too. That sort of makes us not so alone, don't you think?

I'm keeping you in my thoughts and hope you find some peace and comfort soon.

What a hard place to be Wings....

I agree that communication is a big part of what makes relationships successful or doomed. We all play a part in that.

Be clear where you end and another begins and set your personal boundaries for the way you want to treat others and how you want to be treated. Study up on the pattern of domestic abuse...the Internet provides good general information. A library or support group also provides information.

Get help and support whether your bf likes it or not. You are allowed to have a social life and see your family...Good luck to you hon all of this is hard work ((((hugs))))

I told him I am taking back his Christmas presents. He said why? I said because you are not getting me one. I've got him one for 5 yrs now and I've never gotten one. He is hiding under the covers. What does that mean? Is he trying to escape me? I feel he hates me

I don't know your entire situation. Just going by what I read.
I think it sounds like a very one sided relationship...His side.
To me this should be a give and take relationship. That is not just giving or only taking. Both. Can you share your feelings, concerns with family members? Can you talk to him. If you feel you can;t that's not a good sign by any means. On a personal level over 20 years ago I lived with man who constantly belittled me for 4 months. I know that doesn't sound like a long time but it was. It was constant hurts. Eventually I kicked him out and so glad. Good luck to you Wings.

It sounds "easy" to just say DITCH THE TOXIC PERSON". I know that it is extremely hard. I deal with my family who are very toxic people. It is so very hard when you love someone and know that they are tearing u down at the same time. I am learning very slowly how to distance myself from them. hugs xxxxx

What TC said.

I'm sorry you are hurting. ((((Hugs))))