I'm with Gina on this one!

good for you heretic! just take it in little tiny baby steps. enjoy the experience and keep your expectations modest. don't reveal too much too quickly. keep it light. don't hang a lot of hopes on him. you are only meeting for the first time.

I know that dating can be an emotional landmine, though. I used to hate, hate, hate. Total mindf*ck. Screwed with my self esteem bigtime.

But it doesnt' have to be that way. Just try to keep up the positive self talk.

I meant hate dating...didn't finish my sentence.

Thanks for the feedback - I know I have to keep it light etc, but it's hard not to be anxious, My life isn't that great, in fact it's really depressing and I have to really sugarcoat things to make them appear ok. Plus I have social anxiety and really don't like meeting new people. At the same time, I hate living alone and am really looking for someone to love me. And that can't happen if I don't meet and get to know them first. Sometimes I want to give up, but I hate living alone so bad. I just want to BE in a good relationship, I want to skips all the steps to getting there.

I completely understand, Heretic. Social Anxiety and wanting to be loved are a gnarly combination of conflicting emotions.

I used to be a total love junkie. And I had social anxiety. Only pursued guys when manic. Always bad.

But you know what you gotta do. You will get there, eventually.

you just be yourself and enjoy the company. Let us know how it went.

So... What happened? How did it go?

I hate dating and always have. I've had a fair number of relationships in my time but I've always known the person quite well as a friend before it went anywhere further.

The date went really well, we talked for over an hour and may see each other again this weekend. I ended up not being so nervous after I got there and he was very easy to talk to - so who knows what might happen - looks ok so far. Thanks to everyone for your support - much appreciate.

right on.
glad it went well.

I'm so happy for you. You are much braver than I.

I have noticed your replies to post and was always impressed with you. I can understand being nervous, but know that you are not damaged. You are someone that would be great company for any man. I wish you well and I'm proud of you for having the courage to have the coffee.
Good luck! Be yourself and nothing will go wrong!

Ok I didn't read all the replies and the date has already happened. I'm happy things went well for you!

I feel the same way. If any guy finds out I'm bipolar, they'll run in the opposite direction. I dont even have any male prospects in line, so I have nothing to worry about, but I'm so scared I'm never going to find someone to accept me. :'(

BUT i wish you luck!! Go for it!

I haven't been in a serious relationship since 05 it's getting so lonely.